No Liz I wasn't saying you had to follow a script, what I was asking was why wasn't there middle ground? And in your situation you were saying it is something YOU do, so IMO that was fine, you were just talking about your experience. It just seemed really confronting to me to see "Pfft it doesn't matter, even if he hurt himself" and then extremely confronting abuse videos and then a good telling off? No middle ground. Not from my angle anyway.

Maybe I've misunderstood the situation? I dunno, I was just thinking outside the square here thats all.