Linda hun, I'm just going to move this to the parenting de-briefing forum so you can post with 100% certainty of not being judged at all as you work through this, as I know only too well the feelings about feeding.
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Linda hun, I'm just going to move this to the parenting de-briefing forum so you can post with 100% certainty of not being judged at all as you work through this, as I know only too well the feelings about feeding.
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Thanks everyone!
Trillian Thanks babe was not sure where to post this but as I said to you in my email it is valuable for others to know as well as me
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No worries LindaYou may think you are going along just fine and dandy and then something happens to bring it all crashing down again. If you like, have a read of my de-brief here http://forums.bellybelly.com.au/foru...-de-brief.html and you will see that you are not alone. It is something that I did struggle with for a very long time but I have now come full circle. I hope that someday you do too. And never forget that it's not always about the way they are fed - the WHO might not have formula feeding at the top of its list for infant nutrition preferences, but it is still there as sometimes it is the only choice we have isn't it? You can only live for the moment, and not dwell on what could have been because at every stage you did your very best and that's all she is going to know - that she has a Mum who loves her so much that she made the ultimate sacrifice by NOT continuing, to make sure that she had a full belly. You do have to look at it holistically and work out at what point it becomes your need to continue BF'ing through problems as opposed to her needing it kwim? I think there is a lot to be said for taking that view of it - I can't see any point in battling every feed for god knows how long, just to be able to say you did it, when all that time you could have been enjoying every moment of newborn feeding instead of spending every waking moment dreading trying to get it to work. Because this stage is such a short period in their lives that you don't want to reflect back on it in years to come and only have bad memories kwim?
Last edited by Trillian; June 16th, 2009 at 08:17 PM.
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Brilliant point!
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Great point Shreee and that is what we did at the time what was best for us so we could enjoy our time as baby and Mum.
I in no way upset by my move for me it was always on the cards so knowing she is healthy is the most important thing.
Thanks for your story too
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Trill you are so lovely. What a beautiful post to Linda...
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TL, thank you so much for sharing. I am sorry that at times when you needed support you didn't feel able to ask for it. But I am so glad that you are able to share now to help others. I hope that this is a community where people can post about how they really feel and what is going on, without fear of judgement. At the end of the day things usually don't go as planned with babies, and we are all just trying to do the best we can.
I think you are doing an amazing job with your DD hun.
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TL - thanks for sharing your story. As someone who is yet to go through labour/birth, breastfeeding and all the other new experiences/decisions a baby will bring - your story is inspiring. All the decisions you and your DH made were the best for you, your Miss C and your family - anyone who judges you for that probably has a lot of issues of their own they need to deal with (IMO). This forum is richer for wonderful women and mothers like you who offer so much to other members. I hope I have your courage and grace when its my turn.
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Linda - I know exactly where you are coming from I tuely do!
I had an emerg c-section not the natual birth that I had my heart set on and I never made any milk at all and after being told it will come and it never did went to FF - Bella is a beautiful alert and amazing 6 month old that is in the 97th percentile for all her stats - I cant ask for more that that of my baby girl.
No matter how they get here or how they are feed as long as they are loved that all that matters!!
I hope you feel better and you are a wonderful mummy! Please feel free to PM me anytime and I have and still am going through all that you are.
Kate xox
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Tigger - I just wanted to clarify something, because I'm sad that you felt you couldn't post about things on the forum, but also to make sure it wasn't me that made you feel you couldn't.
I'm always the first to point out that expressing can be stressful ( hence my assumption), because I think it can be (it certainly was for me), and because I hate seeing anyone beating themselves up if they find it hard. I'd never imply that expressing can dry your milk up, cos I don't believe it does and that's the last thing anyone would need to hear when they are struggling with feeding their baby no matter how they feed them.
DS ended up being FF too - I felt in a jam when it came to posting about it because I didn't want to offend any FF'ers because I hated it so much.
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Lulu not just one person hun a number of comments with my CS and FF decisons had made me feel unsure about posting. And I in no way want to point the finger at anyone for making it uncomfortable.
It is a long journey after IVF and a not so easy preg
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Well don't let it stop you posting in the future chickie. Gawd I remember being so sad about you losing Miss C, only to find she wasn't lost at all!
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Luv ya Linda. Look forward to seeing you again soon, and getting a cuddle with your beautiful girl.
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