No worries Linda It will be so valuable for you to have this thread where you can come and hash things out and try to find peace with it all, because it can take a while You may think you are going along just fine and dandy and then something happens to bring it all crashing down again. If you like, have a read of my de-brief here http://forums.bellybelly.com.au/foru...-de-brief.html and you will see that you are not alone. It is something that I did struggle with for a very long time but I have now come full circle. I hope that someday you do too. And never forget that it's not always about the way they are fed - the WHO might not have formula feeding at the top of its list for infant nutrition preferences, but it is still there as sometimes it is the only choice we have isn't it? You can only live for the moment, and not dwell on what could have been because at every stage you did your very best and that's all she is going to know - that she has a Mum who loves her so much that she made the ultimate sacrifice by NOT continuing, to make sure that she had a full belly. You do have to look at it holistically and work out at what point it becomes your need to continue BF'ing through problems as opposed to her needing it kwim? I think there is a lot to be said for taking that view of it - I can't see any point in battling every feed for god knows how long, just to be able to say you did it, when all that time you could have been enjoying every moment of newborn feeding instead of spending every waking moment dreading trying to get it to work. Because this stage is such a short period in their lives that you don't want to reflect back on it in years to come and only have bad memories kwim?
Last edited by Trillian; June 16th, 2009 at 08:17 PM.
It will be so valuable for you to have this thread where you can come and hash things out and try to find peace with it all, because it can take a while
You may think you are going along just fine and dandy and then something happens to bring it all crashing down again. If you like, have a read of my de-brief here http://forums.bellybelly.com.au/foru...-de-brief.html and you will see that you are not alone. It is something that I did struggle with for a very long time but I have now come full circle. I hope that someday you do too. And never forget that it's not always about the way they are fed - the WHO might not have formula feeding at the top of its list for infant nutrition preferences, but it is still there as sometimes it is the only choice we have isn't it? You can only live for the moment, and not dwell on what could have been because at every stage you did your very best and that's all she is going to know - that she has a Mum who loves her so much that she made the ultimate sacrifice by NOT continuing, to make sure that she had a full belly. You do have to look at it holistically and work out at what point it becomes your need to continue BF'ing through problems as opposed to her needing it kwim? I think there is a lot to be said for taking that view of it - I can't see any point in battling every feed for god knows how long, just to be able to say you did it, when all that time you could have been enjoying every moment of newborn feeding instead of spending every waking moment dreading trying to get it to work. Because this stage is such a short period in their lives that you don't want to reflect back on it in years to come and only have bad memories kwim?
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