Good on you for putting this out there Linda! I admire you for trying to create awareness and bring this out into the open
Some people are so righteous in their beliefs that lots of people are scared into not talking about so many issues. I think that it is terrible that mums are doing what is best for them and their babies and then feeling bad about it, as if you don't have enough stress with a newborn baby. Women need to rally together and support everyone's choices even if they might not be your own.
When my mum was organising my baby shower (imagine super excited first time grandma, over the top with printed games booklets and helium balloons and party favours) she was showing one of her neighbours a picture of a nappy cake made out of disposable nappies that she ended up making for me and the stupid woman just looked at mum with an evil look and said, "don't you know how bad those things are for the environment." Talk about crushing someone's hopes and dreams. I didn't even consider using cloth and am quite happy using disposables but maybe one day someone will be able to convert me
Oh Funky Frog your poor Mum I can only imagine how proud she was I would have loved a nappy cake of spoies as we are using them too for Miss C as she has got her Mummys skin that gets a rash at the drop of a hat
I'm sorry you felt this way. And I hope nothing I've said has lead you to feel this way. But I would just like to tell you something from the heart. I for one care not how a woman births her baby so long as she chooses what is right for her. That is the only problem I have, I can assure you of that (when a woman's choice is not respected). And friends of mine who have chosen C/S and FF will confirm this. Yes I get passionate, but if that passion has been misunderstood I am sorry for that, but I just want you to know that I (and I know I am only one measly member ) support you and am happy for you that your birth was everything you wanted and more.
And for what it is worth, I too have always thought you were amazing in your journey. You were always so strong and supportive. And something that I will never forget is your "affirmative avatar" I loved looking at it, it always made me smile. As when we went through LTTTC affirmations were what kept me sane.
Be proud of your journey and be happy for your choices, this is the best thing a mother can do for their baby and for themselves. C/S or FF you are an amazing woman and mother And thats not meant as a negative at all
Like others have said, we always find something that we feel guilty for and I hope you can take these things off your list xxx
hun you are doing an awesome job!! and good on you for posting about this, i know it would of helped me way back when my dd was a baby
my dd is ff and i am PROUD of it, its nothing to be ashamed about, my milk was not enough for my dd, and god knows we tried, i was judged by all including my doctor, the midwives and my friends. but at the end of the day i couldnt stand hearing my new born baby crying cos she was so hungry, so we ff her and she was like a different baby, she slepts for more then an hour at a time, she was content, no more crying and most of all i felt happy cos no matter what my daughter was getting food!! yeah i wished i could of bf but it just wasnt meant to be. dd and i still got to bond, just like a bf baby, everytime we had a bottle, she would lay there and would look at me, scanning my face and gazing into my eyes, it was so wonderful, i will never foget them 3am feeds with the light on dim and looking down into my babies eyes, holding her in so close and looking at her tiny little hand holding onto my finger. ohhhhh what i woudnt do to go back in time just to have 5 minutes of that again.
oh hun your doing an awesome job, enjoy it sweetie, they grow up way to fast
TL I remember reading your thread about how you nearly lost Miss C when you were maybe 12 weeks pregnant. I had tears in my eyes, thinking how sad and unfair that a pregnancy that you wanted so much, that you worked so hard for, was slipping away. I kind of lost track of the thread and it wasn't until weeks later that I realised hang on, you got through it and you were still pregnant. I was so happy for you, and I'm sure my feelings were shared by so many of us here. Having a CS or having to FF, in my eyes, is a tiny thing in the overall picture of your lifelong relationship with your daughter.
I think in life it's not so much what you choose as the way you choose it. And everything you've chosen has been chosen with love, with careful consideration, and with a firm focus on the best interests of all concerned. That's absolutely the best anyone can do.
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of spoies as we are using them too for Miss C as she has got her Mummys skin that gets a rash at the drop of a hat 
to your Mum I would love to see a Pic 
) support you and am happy for you that your birth was everything you wanted and more. 
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