DH and I have had a few chats like that recently, and I think it is really hard for some men to feel like they aren't contributing - especially if they're used to being in control at work.

Is there a practical way DH can feel like he is making a difference? Can he take the girls on a designated day or time to give you a little break? Or can he pick up some house duties?

For me, it seems part of the issue issue is I don't let him contribute as much as he could, or ask for help from other people. I feel like I should be able to do it all.

Go easy on yourself and maybe turn to any support people that may be around. It sounds like you both need a break and some time together to nut this one out.

GL.