Thanks for the caring words fionas and Rinnie. I posted this in October last year after feeling very isolated and quite desperate. I am pleased to report that things are much better than before. As you (and the pp's) have higlighted actually spending some quality time together has been the key to making everyone happier. We really had lost our way together and I think that as outwardly everything looked perfect then we didn;t get any offers of time out etc. We have had a few nights out and this has helped but it is very easy to slip back into old habits. I am also getting much better at saying I need you to this and that rather than just ask for generic help - not specific enough for my DH to know what to do. So this has been a very timely reminder to get on with it all. xxx