Oh dear Maybe try pointing out that if you could get a bit of quality sleep then you would be a better partner as well as mummy. My DH has learnt this... and now I get at least 1 night a weeks deep proper sleep. Shell can contribute to your sleep deprivation and have an understandably psychotic partner or she can absorb a bit of the sleep loss and have a calmer partner... she can't have both. I hope I'm not out of line by saying that maybe Shell's empathy would be increased if she had the next baby? Sometimes people don't get it until they have walked in the shoes... I know my DH will probably never be a SAHD but thankfully it doesn't have to come to that for him to feel a bit of compassion for my sleep loss.

*more hugs*