Let him do things even if you don't strictly "need" it. Ask him to bathe her while you nick down to the shops, or go for a walk. Ask him to change her even if you could do it yourself. Ask him to carry her in a sling when you are out for a walk. Bonding "happens" just by hanging out with each other. When you are in the groove as a mum it's easy to feel it's just easier to do things yourself. But bit back any criticism you have and just let him do it his way.
I think I agree with this. I had a really awful pregnancy and birth with DD & I'm not sure that we would have bonded at all if we hadn't been forced together so often by the necessity of breastfeeding. I think if you spend a lot of time with someone the bond grows naturally, rather than spending time specifically to build a bond - if that makes any sense at all? Also, could it just be that he is out of practice and feeling like he's 'lost it' a bit. I get a little that way around babies now because it has been so long, and I'm a mother! I just feel kind of awkward and that the things that used to come naturally to me like soothing etc, I have to really think about now so when people offer me a nurse I kind of feel out of my depth and bit inadequate.