DH's Shiftwork - Am I Being A Sook?

[ellasmummy]

100% feel your pain. Shift work frikkin sucks for everyone involved!! My dh starts at midnight, so goes to bed around 4pm. Gets home around 9am, so I do nights and mornings myself. Hate it he is here for lunch, bit that's the easy part of the day lol. Plus half the time we are out anyway. sucks for him too though!! Aah the things we do for money.

[fionas]

Oh I know ellasmummy!!! I'm sure some of my friends see us out and about at lunchtime and think how lucky we are but I think, who ever said they needed help at lunchtime for goodness sake? Not me, lunchtime is the cruisiest part of the day. Or like you said, we're out and DP is home.

[Astrid]

Don't know how you do it. DH did shift work when DD1 was a baby and it was pure hell trying to keep her quiet so he could sleep. Honestly don't think I could go back to it, even with the girls no longer being babies. Don't think you are being a sook

[fionas]

Thanks Astrid. I must be shattered because somehow DP has now become DH and I can't remember getting married

[Astrid]

Thanks Astrid. I must be shattered because somehow DP has now become DH and I can't remember getting married

just noticed that.

[Kmn]

Is it worth moving your day around - putting baths after lunch, and putting the biggest meal at lunchtime when everyone will be home to help?
I think you need to cut yourself a lot of slack here, rather than putting pressure on yourself to get it all done solo.

[Arcadia]

it sounds very rough.

My dh does looooong hours so I too do mornings and nights by myself.... We also have irregularity which I think is almost worse because it's really hard to find a rhythm.

The things that help me are cooking huge batches of meals on the weekend so the weeknight meals are sorted, and using the tv in the morning. We tape play school and it goes on first thing each morning so I can have some time to shower, breakfast and ease into the day.

Good luck!