Did you 'know' when you were done having kids?

[~Hestia~]

When I was pregnant with Buster I swore he would be our last. DH and I were happy with two. A day or two after he was born I started thinking about another child, and now almost 4 months on I am most definitely not done! I would absolutely love to TTC a third child but DH doesn't want to, he's still content with two children. I'm envious of my friends who are quite sure they're done and have no desire for anymore - I remember feeling that confident with my choice and don't know if I ever will again. It doesn't help that Buster is the most easy going baby you'll ever meet

Oh yes and the pidgeon pair thing bothers me too. If I was blessed with another child I wouldn't necessarily be trying for a girl...with the amount of matchbox cars in our house I'd be better off with a third boy But the assumption that we would want a little girl more would irritate me!

[Trillian]

It was never something that I knew instantly - it was something that happened over time. We'd made a concrete decision not to have any more after having our 4th, so DH got a vasectomy, but for me the feelings were still there for a long time. The head and the heart were a bit confused there for a while. The head knew it was done but the heart took a lot longer to catch up.

[~*Niadalla*~]

We always said 2 kids and that was it. It didn't matter what genders I got etc. We were also lucky, as we got a pigeon pair.

Regardless, I knew I was done when I was pregnant with #2. Hubby and I are on the exact same page. Totally done, not having anymore.

[jacklicky]

DH only ever wanted one baby. For me that was never an option so we had always compromised on two.
DD came along and when we TTC for No2 we found out DH had developed MFI which meant IVF.

I am ecstatic that IVF worked for us but to be honest cant ever see myself doing it again.
Im my heart I would love another baby but also feel like these two are what my family is meant to be.

If I had of met DH and had babies earlier I think I would feel different but my 40yr old body has had enough I think.

[Fig]

Straight after the birth of my second, I could almost see a third child. It was weird, I absolutely felt like there should be a third child. DS is now 2 and half and we have been 'trying' for about 6 months to have the third. I thought I was pregnant 2 months ago and totally flipped out and had a massive panic attack about going through it all again. My DH really wants a third, but since he saw me completely flip out about it has agreed that its probably not a good idea to go ahead right now.

We have decided to wait another 2 years and then try again. That gives me time to think about it, but it means that we are not finished yet. I hope one day I feel comfortable one way or the other and can ultimately say 'yes we are done' but I think time will probably make that decision before I do.

[~Hestia~]

I posted in this thread earlier but funny how things change! A month later and I am done Nothing happened to change my mind, I just feel very happy with my two little boys and have no desire for more children now. I even got rid of all my baby things!

[AwesomeFoursome]

Its taken a while to feel done, its only in the last 8-10 weeks I have come to terms with this being our last. My head says defiantly no more, and my heart is happy with that atm. Though i know I will probably have moments when I long for another one, we have made the decision for DH is get a vasectomy after bub is born. Physically I don't think my body could cope with another pregnancy. I am happy that we have been blessed with the kids we have and I guess I just have to remind myself this if this comes up.

[Trillian]

I posted in this thread earlier but funny how things change! A month later and I am done Nothing happened to change my mind, I just feel very happy with my two little boys and have no desire for more children now. I even got rid of all my baby things!

It's funny the way it happens isn't it? Its like something you can't quite explain, but you look at your kids and you just *know* you've reached that point where you know there will be no more and you start to move forward with life.