Thanks ladies. Yep ground rules! I have told her many times and (you know how mums can be) She laughs it off! She has been somewhat better as i was sneaky and *****ed to my sister knowing she would in some way relay that back to my mum. I told sis that i would have to seriously think about whether mum could continue to live with us and that seems to be working a bit..

Rivlas i suspected what you say because DD is attached to me and DH (whom she spends less time with than my mum who works part time and home a lot with us) and she doesn't like staying or playing with Grandma that much. I was thinking the same thing cos my mum is always scowling at her and i reckon she's only 15 mths old but a smart little cookie! Sometimes she actually growls when my mum goes near her and if she is crying to be picked up and my mum goes to her she turns away! I cant believe it but maybe that is exactly why!