Do you wish you'd waited?

[k4t]

I had DD a few months before my 30th this year and I wish I'd had her 2-3 years earlier, partly so I could afford a bit more spacing for multiple kids without hitting my late 30s. But there are so many variables including partner, job, finances and mother nature it's a very hard call to make. (I also thought I'd probably be happy with just 1 before her)

[grub17]

whenever this question comes up from friends who are married but yet to start a family I always tell them to get to the baby making ASAP if you want kids. I was 25 when we started trying for a baby... I was 28, nearly 29 by the time we actually got one! Operations/infertility/IVF/ICSI et al meant having a baby wasn't as easy as it should have been... and we were two "normal" very healthy, fit young people. so you can just never tell. I am glad I didn't wait til we were in our 30s because the babies that did arrive (i got 2 in 18 months lol) may never have happened if I'd been 10 years older. Possibly, if you do watn to wait, getting your fertility checked out might be the smart thing to do so when you decide you are ready, hopefully there won't be huge hurdles in the way!

So not sure if that answers your questions! I wanted to be a younger mum, but it didn't happen that way. It's the way it worked out and now I wouldn't swap those years DH and I had and that I had on my career.

I think there are real pros and cons for both sides. It's like whether to have kids close together in age or wait five or so years between them... courses for horses and all that.