I dunno. I think the don't tell me unless you're bleeding thing does kids a disservice. Instead of allowing them to open up a discussion. And then you have the high school years where problems arise from kids being too scared to talk about anything because they are fearful of dobbing. I know my friends and I talk about everything. And that's not considered dobbing? Like I said in a previous post I use dobbing as a way to teach them how to problem solve and how not to judge and how not to gossip. In stead of it being an inconvenience to me why not use it as a opportunity to teach good social skills. And if it turns out it is just vengeful tattle tailing it'll end quickly because it won't get the desired result.