Help :(

[Kazzo]

Once my DD was over day sleeps, I enforced quiet time in your room instead. So effectively she's still giving me some space (and herself time to wind down), but I stopped worrying about whether she was sleeping in there or not. I had to make sure she understood she didn't have to sleep, but she had to play quietly.
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This is what I did with DD1 when she did not want to have a day sleep. Most of the time she plays for a while and falls asleep anyway. I also found that I needed to change up her bed time routine a bit to suit her a bit more.

[black_rose]

Can't really give you advice as dd2 is just starting to do the same and IRS driving me crazy. Might have to try the okay quietly in her room thing in the hope she falls asleep

[Beach Mama]

Depends if you think she needs it babe. Izzy is nearly 4 and still has a sleep, if she skips it at creche (which she does most days) she is pretty ratty by the afternoon. We have no worries getting her down by 8 if she does have one so we keep going with it. J still goes down with a bottle so I put him to bed and I have to lie down with Iz to get her sleep on most days but it means a 15-20 min rest for me, or else I nap with her if I am not well or too tired. Quiet time sounds like a good idea as well. xoxo

[Kmn]

Can you go for a big walk or spend some time dancing around the lounge before you want her to nap - if she's not actually physically tired (no matter how worn out and ratty she may be mentally) then sleep will be a battle.

We also do books-on-the-mattress, with me reading a couple and then leaving DS with a large pile of them. It is much less painful than most other methods. And we call it "rest" as in "you don't have to go to sleep, just go upstairs and have a rest". Usually he falls asleep, but if not he's at least had a bit of a break.

[onthefly]

DS went through this at a similar age, but then started sleeping again (and even better than before), but his bedtime moved back a bit (from 11:30-12 to 12:30-1pm)
He's done with day sleeps now though We have DVD time - ocasionally he falls asleep on the couch or in the car in the afternoons. He still needs the nap but just doens't want to. Frankly I'm surprsied his day sleeps lasted as long as they did given his general attitude to sleep. The upside is that he goes to sleep earlier in the evening now

[Tinks]

My kids all stopped day sleeps at 2yrs on the dot. I always had quiet time for them around 1-2pm, they'd either go and lie in my bed and watch a dvd or play in their rooms.

[Olive]

sorry i havent read through all the responses yet...but will!
just deciding now whether or not to both with a sleep today... mmmmmm