Help husband move on from birth?

[Mum2SweetCs]

Hi there
My dh was very traumatised with first birth also due to 27 hr labour and dd in distress and had to get vac out.

For dd2 he knew what he was getting into although the experience was fast dd2 took only 2hrs, he was less traumatised with it (he still didnt like the whole birthing) but after a month or so he moved on and although he still feels traumatised, seeing dd2 grow and develop totally surpassed any feelings he has.

Hopefully your dh can move on and see the positive outcome

[Bloom]

My DH has had a similar though not as severe response to the births of our 3. My 3rd was the worst for him as we were in hospital for the longest part of the labour. We are in discussion about it, but I am thinking that if we are blessed with a 4th, then I will hire a doula and he wouldn't have much of a role or possibly not be in the room for much of the birth. This is also in part because he has not be a fantastic help during labour (i.e. He napped for a fair bit of the last one!).