You have 'Birthtalk' in Brisbane, if they are close to you. "
Birthtalk is a unique support and education organisation based in Brisbane, Australia, and run by a registered midwife, childbirth educator and mums. " they also have a website.
I think it's worth getting him in to talk to someone professional to debrief. I'm not sure how the mental health plans work in this regard, but if you go to the dr together and ask about it, there may be some assistance there. If it's holding you back from taking action, that's a sure marker of trauma. Trauma doesn't just go away - if he doesn't deal with it now, it will just pop up again the next time he has to deal with a medicalised situation - yours, his, or one of the kids. It really is better to work through it now.
FWIW I was the traumatised party after my first birth and I opted to have a CS second time round to avoid the same. Obviously that is not appropriate for everyone, especially since it's his trauma and not yours, but I'm just saying this because it shows there are many different options, many ways to get around it. I think it's fabulous that you are facing this and working on it as a couple before you even try to get PG again, and I'm sure that this is something you can overcome together.
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