I have been there too, and I have to say I am enjoying it all so much better this time around because I know I am doing what works for me and my family.

Do what makes you feel happy today, because things change so quickly. At the moment my ds sleeps in my bed and has short naps in the pram...he feeds to sleep and likes to have my face next to his. He wakes several times before I go to bed and often feeds two hourly day and night. I feel great though because I know I am doing the best thing for him.

I suppose you need tobask yourself what it is you feel you are lacking? More sleep? Uninterrupted time? Time with your partner? These things can be addressed while still catering to your baby. I always sleep when I can (go to bed early and nap if my kids nap). I get my dh to take the kids if I need uninterrupted time, and I try and organize time with my partner when I have family in town.

Most of the parenting advice looks at ways to make a convenient child, and appeals to your longing t have a life like you used to have. Some people are 'lucky' that their baby seems to disrupt their lives less than others, but you know, in the end, the baby becomes a demanding child anyway and life really isn't the same, so I say surrender, surrender surrender and forge out a new life now, where you do the things you want to do, while still being the best parent you can be (whatever that means to you!).