'I know how you feel'- then do nothing to help

'I had terrible sleepers too'- and not take the kids for a few hours so she can rest

'I always cleaned when they slept, my house was never a mess'- when her children barely sleep, and her house is a pigsty

'You shouldn't have had them so close'- (well where to begin with this pearler...?? The kids ARE born, they ARE close together in age. It's awesome and it sucks all at once, there are pros and cons to big gaps and small age gaps. Telling me that will do abso-freaking-lutely nothing to help me.)

'No more kids right?'- when she has told me she actually wants another, but her hubby doesn't

'You decided to have kids/You made your bed so lay in it'- when she is doing things tough and needs time out



Yeah, my mother is a great help to me. I'm praying that whilst having her as a mother is doing nothing much in particular to help me, I hope that one day when my kids have kids, I will be there in ways my mum never was/is. And that I will NOT be anything like her because she showed me how sucky it can be having a useless mother.