What do you love about having a little boy?

[shazzi]

First of all THANK YOU all so much for helping me through this. BB has been my backbone today since I started this thread. I cried reading and had to go for a walk for a while.

Your words are so full of love for your little boys that I am drawn in by them and am absorbing the love felt. It will be a process of adjustment for me and I know I need to sleep on it and wake up to start a new day. I can come back to this thread tomorrow and reread all your beautiful and loving descriptions of little boys and brothers with a clear head and embrace the boy I am nurturing inside me.

I also want to share that the ultrasound went very well, my placenta is not low this time and the placenta also has good blood flow (had a placental abruption at 29 weeks but they do not know why) so no known risks to cause another premmie situation AND I will be trying to a VBAC.

[Jellybean29]

This is my first pg, and I was secretly hoping for a little girl with boofy hair like me! But DH kept saying, that having a boy first was heaps better...

Well 18 week scan showed definate penis! So I was a little crushed at the time, but then when I started thinking about it...
I get to play with train sets and cars and trucks and lego! wooooohoooo!
And I dont have to deal with all the silly girl fashion that you see!
And don't have to worry about a girl getting treated badly by a boy or not feeling pretty enough, or all those girl issues.
Now i'm heaps excited to have a boy!

[aussienic]

Gosh just about everything really.. They are kind and sensitive (at least mine are) They love their mum and dad.

Boys clothes are cool They are easy and I mean super easy to toilet train. and changing dirty nappies is a breeze

And going on my 3 boys compared to my 1 daughter. Boys throw less tantrums.

As for toys my DD plays with all the boys toys and she is just as rough and tumble..

I love my DD to bits but boys have been so much easier.

[Freya]

I have three little boys. They are the light of my life. From what Ive seen of friends daughters, what Im told about boys being easier to raise seems to be true.

From my experience: boys love unconditionally, they are ready for anything and often quite easy going, they are laughs a minute funny, they are devoted to their mothers, they like to do all sorts of fun things.

My boys are the best of friends. I know if they had a sister she would be valued and loved and protected with every fibre of their being. Infact they desperately want a sister, its all they ask for. They seem to be alot closer than alot of siblings I know, I think maybe it has something to do with them being entirely nonjudgemental and less emotional. Obviously Im only speaking from my one sided experience.

Dont feel bad about the way you feel, alot of us have been there. I was there myself when pregnant with my third son. I love my boys but I desperately wanted a girl. Fast forward two years to now; and I cant even begin to convey how much I adore my youngest son. He is my soul mate. He has made me want 1000 son's he is that amazing. He makes people gush wherever we go. Just beautiful.

Your really come into your own as a mother of a boy (or boys), there is something unique and special about that mother-son bond. Congratulations!!

[Phteven]

Boys are awesome. I don't have a girl to compare to but my boys are so funny and affectionate. They give the best huggles and they're such enthusiastic helpers. They're so noisy and boisterous that it makes me crazy but I wouldn't change a thing about them (except maybe adding a muse button and a pause button lol).

[~clover~]

Mummy love. DS is a mummies boy & I love it.
I love his obsession with cars, trucks, mowers, motorbikes.
I had 2 girls, then DS, then another girl. My older girls do not get on at all. DS gets along with them all.He adores DD3 & both the older girls spoil him.
DD1 & DD2 very rarely play together, but DD2 & DS are always giggling together.
Boys are so relaxed & easy going. There isn't the *****iness you get with girls at school. They aren't nearly as competitive with each other.
Boys are so much less drama!
Finally... doodle love. Watching that love grow can be so hilarious at times!! (Maybe I'm slightly odd )

[Tiff+2]

I don't have boys and so far that's the way I wanted it but I desperately hope our next baby is a boy, for so many reasons, the biggest one being DH wanting his son..... Someone to pass down the family name, a little footy player (DH even hopes to coach)..... I look forward to the Tonka trunks, Lego, and down the track, guitar lessons!!!!

I am also the youngest of 3, I have twin brothers who are older than me and love it. I have always loved having them around and now I enjoy having their sons around. I LOVE having girls but it is so nice to have boys around too, it really levels things out.

hope you're feeling happier about it all really soon.

[Tiff+2]

Forgot to add I LOVE the little clothes. I love buying for my nephews just as much as I love buying my girls beautiful outfits. Have you seen the funky little jeans with button up shirts and a little tie?! Hehehe

[charliebear]

Hi, I understand, I was a bit surprised at my 20 week ultrasound too. For no reason at all I was expecting to have a girl, I think my son tricked me by telling me to call him "Felicity" as his foetus name (Yes, I had conversations with him, and I swear at 12 weeks he answered the question "what shall I call you?" with "Felicity"!). But I digress, having a boy is no different to having a girl, there are no innate differences between the two, only cultural and social ones. I do all the fun things with my son and he loves them as much as every other child. Painting, dress-ups, playing with jewellery, baking, climbing trees, origami, playdough etc etc, he even helps me cook and clean (well, sometimes!)

Babies are just people, you really don't need to treat them differently because of their sex. My son is a sweet, thoughtful, funny little person, and I am so so happy he is in my life, he's really great company.

Best of luck, I hope you come to terms with this and enjoy you "pigeon pair"

PS I have only one child, but he loves to play with older children or either gender.

[mummajj]

i just had my first baby 5 weeks ago so i'm yet to discover the little boy personality. but i cant wait. from the moment he was born, i cried for days because i was just soooo in love with him. i had never felt that emotion before.
i could not imagine my life without him in it now. im sure you will feel exactly the same.

[~clover~]

I just have to add this.
After my first 2 girls, I was desperate for a boy. I felt very similar to you & was terrified I would have another girl!
He turns 3 in two weeks. I still can stare at him for hours. I think about him with tears in my eyes because he's just so awesome! (One of his words.)
He's always asking questions & learning new things. Right now DD3 is laying in her cot in a sooky mood, fighting sleep, & he's in there with her, playing with her mobile keeping her happy.
DD3 was not planned. She was a suprise. I said many times I'd have another if I could guarantee a boy, but that wasn't likely.
I spent the whole of DD3's pregnancy feeling detatched, guilty & just horrible.
But now she's here, I wouldn't change it. It took a few weeks to get the same connection I had with my older kids as babies, but she definetely amazed me from day one.
I have been in your position, & I just want to reassure you, no matter what you feel now, you will love your baby with every thing in you.

[*EJ*]

So happy to hear that all is going well this pregnancy and that the signs are there for a full term bub. Be proud of yourself for speaking up, for verbalising your thoughts and trying to work through them. I hope you find peace with your inner battle once your little one is in your arms.

I have two boys that i absoultely adore, they are cheeky, so sweet and cuddly and play beautifuly together. They are sensitive, creative and surprise me every single day. They are big fans of their mummy which i love, but they love dad to bits also. All traits that you could also find in a girl really...

I was kind of opposite to you, with DS1 we didn't find out what we were having (suspected a boy as they are very dominant in our family) and were thrilled to have our boy when he arrived. With DS2 we found out and were both secretly quite relieved to be having another son. I think it had a lot to do with being able to stick with what we know and a bit of a fear of having a girl. For me the fear had a lot to do with the rocky relationship i have had with my mother and for DH i think it was because he just knows how boys think and was a bit scared about the teenage years.

DH and i discussed the posability of a 3rd child and DH was quite adement that he was content with two boys and i too felt quite content with our two boys. If he was happy i was happy. Then last year we found ourselves unexpectedly expecting and from the minute i realised i was pregnant i felt it was a girl.

During the pregnancy i too had some guilty feelings. I think it had to do with the 'girl' thing and also because we had decided that we were happy with the way things were. She wasn't unwanted but it was almost like she'd inconvineanced us a little bit (i feel terrible for saying that but for a minute there i did feel that). We were in the process of renovating a kitchen and getting a loan to do it, but being pregnant meant i'd be not working again and being pregnant with our 3rd (and having 3 under 5) meant i probably wouldn't be able to go back to work for some time. We were thinking financially also, we don't earn a whole lot between us but we get by.

But having said all of that i'm a big believer that things happen for a reason and that our children choose us. The guilty feelings are because i thought like that about someone who i absolutely adore and did before she was even placed in my arms. So if you've read this far i just explained all that because i can relate to your feelings in some way even though there are some differences. Our little girl arrived Dec last year and we love her to bits, overwhelming and unconditional love is the best feeling.

As for me i have a younger brother by about 3.5 years and we did get along well until our teenage years. There were a few years there where we couldn't say a nice word to eachother but that eased off once we were in our early 20's. We have a great relationship now.

I hope you can sort through your feelings with the help you're recieving and don't beat yourself up too much along the way. Concentrate on being healthy and enjoying the rest of your pregnancy. All the best for your future ahead

[grub17]

oh those little gorgeous boy bums!!! too cute!

and watching my DH and DS (whose only 14 months) rough and tumble and chase each other and laugh and giggle is just heart melting stuff.

and he loves loves loves his cuddles! and his dog... any dog really!

From an early age he's been right into trucks and wheels and "things that spin"... not just into, obsessed! He loves to figure out how things work.

I just love little boys. We don't know what our number 2 is but i'm happy either way. LIttle boys are just so wonderful... and I love dressing him in his little shorts and shirts and his man-singlets lol.

[~clover~]

LIttle boys are just so wonderful... and I love dressing him in his little shorts and shirts and his man-singlets lol.

DS calls them muscle shirts

[Miss.B]

Shazzi, congrats on having a wee man!! I loooooooooove my wee guy to bits and although my mum only ever wanted a grandaughter (good on you mum) she is absolutely in love with my DS. He is the ants pants. What I love about my little freckle??? He gives me cuddles, and kisses that I don't see him giving to daddy
9he just wants to be all roughed up by daddy) He makes my heart and soul smile every second of every day. He is my life and I wouldn't sell him for a trillion millions!! lol. When I look into his eyes I can see all the trust and love in them. I love my lil man to bits

[AndiE]

I adore my little boy cuddles - both of them are very affectionate. They also have the most beautiful, compelling smiles and giggles. You can't help but smile back. Both my boys also love anything with wheels - and I actually quite like to share their excitement as the "rubbish bin truck" comes down the road. Or the motorbike. Or the grocery truck. Or the neighbour's 4WD ....
Little boys are beautiful and I've no doubt you'll love your little boy to pieces.

[helle]

Cuddles. Ds always likes being close and is a big mummas boy. But, The cheekiness. The overall boy-ness, he enjoys exploring and testing new things and how they cone apart and go tigether again. He amazes me every day.
He'll stick up for his big sis, always. And his mummy

[Plinky]

Oh, boys are just wonderful! I have a nearly 15mo, and he is so amazing. He is so independent, happy to entertain himself...such a calm personality. There is such a special bond between a mother and a son, I can't describe it. Its just beautiful. I know when you hold him in your arms and kiss that little button-nose, your heart will just melt...he's your little man.

I am actually a bit worried about when we (hopefully) have a second. My head tells me I'd like to have a girl (one of each, you know), but my heart tells me I'd like another beautiful boy. I'm scared I won't have the same bond with a girl as I would with a boy.

Oh, and I just LOVE the little dungarees you can buy for boys, soooo cute! And I love that he loves cars already...and makes the "brrrrm" noise when he sees one.