What do you think are acceptable reasons for not having another baby?

[Rowellen]

Just noticed your name change! Nice I like it

[Antheia]

Sometimes we need to be selfish. Being mothers, its not a common thing for us. All your reasons are valid. Theyre the same as mine. I really really want 5 kids. But i doubt i can do another pregnancy. My SPD is at it's worst, i hate feeling fat and not being able to do anything. Having a newborn you can't do much either, especially with having other kids. Honestly, that's that only reason i can give for not having 5. We could happily provide for them financially but i just don't think i could do it physically. And it's totally selfish. DH is happy with 4 but not 100% against 5. It's more if i will regret not having had 5. But 4 is a good bunch and i think after a while i'll be happy. I'm going to have years of laughs and love from them and hopfully lots of grankiddies! So then i can spoil them as much as i would my own children.

[Jaycee]

I think any reason is acceptable to not have another bub, as long as it is YOUR reason

[Arimeh]

I think any reason is acceptable to not have another bub, as long as it is YOUR reason

Yeah but at the moment I'm flip flopping all over the damn place between have one, don't have one - its constantly on my freakin mind and driving me nutty!!!!! I am like this stupid fish thats been yanked out of the water and just flopping all over the deck - this way, no this way, no the other way - ARGHHHHHH.

Marcellus - hmm. cloning. That IS an idea...

Jahzara - thanks I know you understand what I'm going through xxxxxx (btw, girls night with Sterla soon ok?)

MD - thats what DH said too... and that basically its up to me cos I gotta go through it!

[Muffy]

I think that if you question your reasons for not having another one, then you are not ready to stop.
Thats the way i've always thought about it.
When you know, you know... there will be no questions.

[Indadhanu]

Our decision at the moment to not have any more kids is because we want to be able to do things like travel with Jazz, and not put it off because we will have a newborn or younger child. Plus we both want to go to work when she is about 4 or 5, so we can buy a house. If we have another kid, thats morw time at home and we get even further from our home goal. So I get the selfish award! LOL!

Whatever reason you want to use is good enough. No one can tell you what is acceptable or not acceptable when it comes to decisions like this.

[luna moth]

Less selfish reasons to not have more:

- There are already 6 billion people on this earth and not enough resources for all of them to live a full life.
- Audax needs to purchase all of your no-longer-used baby goods at a very reasonable price.

I think there's something in your vision of toddler-mama with 4 kids - maybe that's part of your family story, and maybe that's something that will happen, in some sort of a wacky way.

[Heaven]

Any reason is an acceptable reason if you don't want to have another baby Mel! It's your life and your family, so you do whatever you want!

But working out what you want is the hard part, huh? So... some questions to ask yourself that you've probably already thought of but I'll write them anyway

Forgetting all the pro's and con's do you want another child in your life?? What does your heart say??

Would you be happy not to have another one?

Would you regret not having a fourth?

Would you regret it if you did have a fourth for any reason?

Would you be happy to have another baby girl?

If you for some reason ended up with another c/s would you still be happy you decided to have another one?

[Arimeh]

Forgetting all the pro's and con's do you want another child in your life?? What does your heart say??

Would you be happy not to have another one?

Would you regret not having a fourth?

Would you regret it if you did have a fourth for any reason?

Would you be happy to have another baby girl?

If you for some reason ended up with another c/s would you still be happy you decided to have another one?

Yup.
Probably get over it eventually.
Probably.. lol
Never regret children. I wanted a boy and got Eden, and I don't regret it for a second - she's a gorgeous bub and I'm blessed to have her.
See above I'd probably get bloody sick of being surrounded by pink since I hate the colour, but I'm sure I could turn them into being black lovers like myself eventually.
Yup. I don't want one but I'd get over it. Just don't want one.. LOL

[Heaven]

Well then missy, I think you should follow your heart! Stop analysing or your head might explode. Sometimes these things just aren't rational. Nothing worse than living with regrets I reckon, and I know your hubby is supportive whatever you decide so that's a big plus!