Sometimes we need to be selfish. Being mothers, its not a common thing for us. All your reasons are valid. Theyre the same as mine. I really really want 5 kids. But i doubt i can do another pregnancy. My SPD is at it's worst, i hate feeling fat and not being able to do anything. Having a newborn you can't do much either, especially with having other kids. Honestly, that's that only reason i can give for not having 5. We could happily provide for them financially but i just don't think i could do it physically. And it's totally selfish. DH is happy with 4 but not 100% against 5. It's more if i will regret not having had 5. But 4 is a good bunch and i think after a while i'll be happy. I'm going to have years of laughs and love from them and hopfully lots of grankiddies! So then i can spoil them as much as i would my own children.