I find it hard to get my children to listen to me they comepletly disrespect me which I see as my own fault for not starting the whole chore thing earlier I just always thought its much quicker for me to do it and I feel a sense of guilt for having them do things for me & i have never been sure if they are old enough to do certain things like when I ask them to put away their clothes they SHOVE them in the draws any draw they see.
If I ask them to put their clothes in the wash they chuck them on the bathroom floor if I ask them to clean their room they shove everything in the wardrobe, under the bed, in the toy box (even clothes) wherever they can find a hole DD2 has even shoved food in her pillowcase.
There is rubbish under my couch from them sneaking food, my NEW couch is filthy and needs steam cleaing and i found lollies down the side of it when they know damn well there is no food in the lounge room.
I cant buy new things coz i just dred them wrecking it, its so upsetting im at my wits end.

I need straight forward adivce, hit me with it hard and HONEST.