DD and DS have been sick for a couple of weeks, and now i am, so cabin fever definitely kicked in. DD was bored/cranky/irritable before and decided she would beat up on DS. Sorted that out and then talked to DD about different things she could do when she was cranky. i offered a few suggestions, and then she said "i could go outside and blow my hair with the outside heater" (we have the outlet to the air con/heater on the deck that blows air). Yay DD! its the first time she has come up with her own (positive) suggestions to dealing with her too strong feelings.

don't know if this makes sense, but it felt like a breakthrough.