Hmm, must have the conversation with my DS that 20 minutes of crying will help him sleep better. Nothing more, nothing less. Yeah right. I have the opposite - if my DS is crying himself to sleep, even if he does drop off after a few minutes, guaranteed he will be awake again at the end of the first sleep cycle. If he goes to bed happily, I'm much more likely to get a good nights sleep. That sounds like I do CC - I don't at all, but now that he's developing his toddler independence, if he's really messing around at bedtime I pop him into bed to think about what he wants - sleep or milk...Can't think of a time when milk wasn't the winner