Not a fan of sleep and / or feeding advice from Tizzie or other childless ex-nannies / nannies / childcare workers at all I am afraid so no help there. As one midwife said to me which I think is a crack up:

"dairy farmers may milk at the same time each day, but calves feed all the time, whenever they are hungry. As human babies need to. Who is hungry at the same time every day? All animals feed as required and I am yet to see one with a watch."
-- LOL!!!

I don't believe in leaving them at all without human comforts, especially while crying, which some of these experts promote and some don't. And if you read 'Raising Boys' it will tell you that boys are especially prone to feelings of abandonment so I don't like doing it to Elijah. The sleeping has been getting out of control a little here with Elijah so Cailin popped over to give me a pep talk and we are back on track. I stay with him, at first we had to make the cot fun (in a comfy way iykwim) which we've done, now he knows when he goes there he's safe and okay. Then I close the curtains, sing to him, as he gets more tired I lower it to a hum and then nothing. Then he's asleep. He's been crying less at night, knows whats going on and I think if you are consistent with something it works better. When it's consistent and gentle to their needs, I think it's less likely to go off the rails. Of course it does go off the rails at times, Elijah got all 4 molars at once, dad has hardly been here all month, we are moving, I am stressed and it's his first week of occasional care!!! So thats alot for a little fella. So gently is working well.

ROFL Astrid, you go girl!!!! I reckon Pinky should be getting more articles in there than Tizzie, Pinky is such a great gentle motivator and confidence builder. Amazing how someone can be an "international sleep expert" without children!

I think the hormonal response you have as a mother is enough as a guide to tell you what you need to do, so I wonder if the sleep experts out there really have any idea as to know what it feels like to have these hormones kicking in and if their methods will change when they have children? Or one with colic? Or triplets with colic LOL! :-k

In my own opinion, I think those without children giving advice without substantial psychological knowledge specific to birth / babies and children is not good at all, they have no knowledge on what that advice is doing in ways they don't know, physically, emotionally, psychologically ... and many lactation consultants are there picking up the pieces for those poor mums who have babies with FTT (failure to thrive) as a result of unsuitable routines and schedules. I know some post-natal workers are reporting lots of cases of unhappy babies and mums thinking their babies don't love them or aren't bonding with the when they have done some of the more 'famous' routines which involve things like no eye contact at night etc. I would be ****ed off if I was sleepily snuggling up with my hubby and he kept looking away from me each time I tried to connect with him. Anyways... off my soapbox.