Thanks for the hello Tizzie. Great to hear you are recently married, but I hadn't realised you were in Dublin at the mo?

I think its really important to realise we all have our opinions, and this is not the first expert that we have disagreed with. As many people have posted, this is a gental parenting website, and people are well within their right to post that they disagree with your, and many other experts sleeps.

I do believe that for many people things cahgne once they have a baby. Its documented (although I cant remember where) that a babies cry evokes such a feeling in his/her mother that noone else can understand, and that is what so many of us mothers feel on a daily basis. And while I personally respect that your advice helps many, many people, its not for me or for the style of parenting that I have chosed to adopt. And I'm pretty proud of the fact that when my baby can't sleep, she comes into bed with us, cause babies have good nights and bad nights, and if a cuddle takes away my babies pain, well thats whats needed.

And again, with the newborn routines, which I opbjected to in the PP magazine, and was published, its just not fair to lay that sort of stuff on mums with little tiny bubbies. Breastfeeding was such a battle for me, I had an enormous oversupply, and your routine could never have helped me. Ever - and I'm 100% confident on that. In fact, following a newborn routine such as yours I'm afraid would have sent me to the looney bin.
I think that we need to support mums so much more than we do, and tell them that if they get through their day - any way they can, then thats OK.

I have always congratulated people who have found success with your routines, and told people who are having trouble with babies, particularly newborns not to hold too much into routines, and I will stick by this. And when you BIL has a baby of his own, I'm sure you'll be the first he'll call for help, and I hope you can, but ultimately its up to him how he learns to deal with the child, as it is with all of us.

Congratulations on your success with many, many parents and babies, but don't be harsh on the ones who dont believe in your techniques - including owners and moderators of forums.

Fiona