control crying

[Astrid]

I had a friend who told me about her experience with cc. her & her dh thought that the best way to get their ds to stop waking throght the night fpr a bott;e was to ignor him. the first night they did this, she said was really hard but after an hour or so he stoped crying and went back to sleep. Not once did they go to him. In the morning she went to his room to find that in the time he spent crying himself to sleep he had vomited & poo'd every where (apparently his nappy leaked or came off?) and then had to sleep in his own mess.
I was shocked that not only they did this but that she told me. she said she felt terrible about it.
I am still shocked that they not once went and checked him.

OMG I am so close to crying- whilst I don't agree with CC, I do believe that if it is to be done, then it should be done with a "professional" either with a home visit or at a sleep school to ensure events like this do not happen.

Maggie - what ever you do please don't rush into it. I did so with Maggie, tried following the Baby Whisperer after watching her show (felt guilty about my "accidental parenting") and after a visit by a nasty MCHN who told me off. Maggie would feed to sleep so I tried to break her of it by holding her and patting her whilst she cried (as I saw on BW and read in her book). I thought it would work like the TV and that the crying sessions would get less and less till she would just put herself to sleep, but it did not happen. In the end after posting on her and getting some wonderful advice, I went back to feeding her to sleep. This time though it did not work the same way, she would not go to sleep. I had to hold her till she cried then feed her. It was awful and still is, I still have horrendous time getting her to sleep, the damage of me trying to push her before both she and I were ready has not gone away.