i have only in the last year goten my eldest to go to bed in his own room, but still have to leave the hall light on, my 3yo however, will not sleep in the bed room, (the boys share) im planing to clear out the spare room and see how he goes on his own (fingers crossed) the only thing that works for him is to lye on the couck with the light and telly off, usualy asleep in 2 mins (depending on how long it takes to be still) my daughter is compleatly different, from 2 weeks she slept 8 hrs straight and started to settle herself(she would lye in her cot babbling away to the wall untill her eyes wouldnt stay open) 6since she has started teething it has been adifferent story though, she WILL NOT sleep unless im holding her, and then once out to it, daddy has to put her in her cot, if i do it she is awake the minute i put her down! good luck it took me 3 years of trying this and that with the boys to get them both were they are today!!!