I am a HUGE fan of P.E.T and even though DD is only 1yrs old we use it - it helped hubby and I communicate much more effectively as well - we argue A LOT less ever since we learned how to communicate in this manner (i.e no labelling, ordering, threateneing etc).

It really helps you listen and understand as well as making you feel like you are being heard and understood - no judgement and it facilitates problem solving and solutions that everyone is happy with.

I have even used my active listening skills with other family members and you would be surprised how well it went - a lot of them ended up solving their own problems and were no longer upset or angry. My sister-in-law even says 'I always feel so much better after talking to you.'