What do you think?

[MummaBee]

Im sick of people judging other peoples parenting yes it sounds harsh but it sounds a bit over the top and like we dont know all the facts too. With my first kid all i continually worried about is what people thought of me as a mother and its because everyones continually judging people. If you havnt seen her hitting them than i think its silly to jump to conclusions. Caught me at a bad moment lol

[aussienic]

If you could see the blog.. she had pictures of her 18 month old and 3 of her other children in chairs.. She then took a photo of when she had used the tool of correction and then the photo of the 18 month old really crying (well screaming as 18 month olds do) then made the comment on how she was screaming but was going to ignore it for the time being as it was her first training session.. so yes I think if you are going to post things like that then prepare to be judged..

[MummaBee]

oh maybe she was asking for it????

[Boo Boo]

omg that is weird....yes I am judging her parenting....but to me it sounds weird and taking photos of your kids distressed after you have given them some form of punishment....imo children dont have the mental capacity to sit still for long periods of time - especially an 18 month year old....very bizarre...i could say alot more but I wont....just have to add sounds like somethig out of the dark ages like when my dad used to get rapped over the knuckles when he was a boy learning the piano and got the notes wrong...but I digress...

[HotI]

sounds like a power tripper

[~Kaz~]

Nic I have been thinking about your post all evening and I honestly can't decide what to think. I haven't seen the blog but I kind of want to know more. More about that family. Where they live, how they spend their days, what the temperaments of the children are like, what is she like? I wonder if she was raised with similar methods? If she has made a truly informed choice to parent this way or if she is (as so many of us do unconsciously) repeating what she experienced as a child? Is she in an abusive relationship where she is punished and held accountable for the misbehaviour of her children? Does she have particular personality traits that predispose her to getting pleasure from controlling others or inflicting pain? How do her children interpret/respond to her behaviour? Is there more "clear cut" abuse going on at other times or is this the only situation that borders on abusive or taking punishment too far?

I am reluctant to judge her without much more information. I am curious to know more. I wonder how she views her children and what her philosophy of childhood is.

[StrawberryMumma]

Sounds a bit intense for me...I'd much rather spend time sitting down with my kids, chatting, reading to them, snuggling and hearing their little giggles....Much better use of time imo.

[aussienic]

Nic I have been thinking about your post all evening and I honestly can't decide what to think. I haven't seen the blog but I kind of want to know more. More about that family. Where they live, how they spend their days, what the temperaments of the children are like, what is she like? I wonder if she was raised with similar methods? If she has made a truly informed choice to parent this way or if she is (as so many of us do unconsciously) repeating what she experienced as a child? Is she in an abusive relationship where she is punished and held accountable for the misbehaviour of her children? Does she have particular personality traits that predispose her to getting pleasure from controlling others or inflicting pain? How do her children interpret/respond to her behaviour? Is there more "clear cut" abuse going on at other times or is this the only situation that borders on abusive or taking punishment too far?

I am reluctant to judge her without much more information. I am curious to know more. I wonder how she views her children and what her philosophy of childhood is.

I am reading more of her blog and wow. its a strange read. I am finding her a little out there. will keep reading though.

[Cherished]

Im sick of people judging other peoples parenting yes it sounds harsh but it sounds a bit over the top and like we dont know all the facts too. With my first kid all i continually worried about is what people thought of me as a mother and its because everyones continually judging people. If you havnt seen her hitting them than i think its silly to jump to conclusions. Caught me at a bad moment lol

The title of this thread is what do you think? If you've got a problem with reading people opinions than don't read the thread. When someone is asked what do you think than whatever the responses are are going to be a judgement. Some may judge that this situation is OK and others may say it's not. Based on the information in the OP many posters are judging this womans behaviour in a negative light.

If you could see the blog.. she had pictures of her 18 month old and 3 of her other children in chairs.. She then took a photo of when she had used the tool of correction and then the photo of the 18 month old really crying (well screaming as 18 month olds do) then made the comment on how she was screaming but was going to ignore it for the time being as it was her first training session.. so yes I think if you are going to post things like that then prepare to be judged..

I feel physically sick reading this

Kaz, valid points hon and a nice reminder that we can hold back our judgements until we know all the facts I had thought of all this before I posted but at the end of it all I still feel sick reading the information presented by the OP

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

Sitting still for up to an hour without whinging at me... I can see the benefits to this.

However, I also bought Liebling some games for my DS so I get some quiet time (for working or when he has to be still/quiet). As an adult, sitting still for an hour with nothing to do is very difficult - heck, I invigilated a half-hour test today and was bored out my brain! By all means teach children appropriate behaviour, but IMO provide some stimulation for them while they're sitting still: a book, video, computer game, drawing/writing material... children can sit fairly still and fairly quietly without having to learn how to switch off from life. And without pain too.