Good Morning ladies..How are we all? Me ****ty, ive just coped another almighty blow but im trying really hard not to cry, gotta be strrong for my kidlets!! I wont go into a rant!!
Welcome AnnaT, Im Tanya 19 (20 in 7 days) with DS 2 and DD 5 months! Look forward to chatting. My partner is also army (his away atm) but i may become even more lonely LoL...
First and formost...OMG YAY Im in bushland beach too!
So Anna if youd like to catch up anytime, let me know!!! im desperate and when dh away i get pretty lonely and bored... i live on anchorage circuit, you can email me at emmaspaeth@msn.com and i can come visit you i fyou like, im 27 nearly 28, 8 dd 5ds and 9mnth old boy girl twins...
tanya.... is everything okay??? send me a email if you arent on msger...
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Afternoon ladies...
Em~ Thanks Im doing okies now just need to get my head straight and figure out were i go from here..
I have a quick question for all you lovely ladies, tho only i can decide what to do! But here it is, if your DH/DP/DF set up a profile on a sigles site, how would you react? Also claiming to be single etc. Thanks
and dont hold back on your opinions, please.
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OMG what a doozy.... Not knowing anything about your relationship and only casual bits here and there about your life on here, (I am assuming you are together) but I peeked at it and put it in my point of view - if that was my partner, and we were knowingly living, loving and having family together, I WOULD NOT TOLERATE THIS at all. Does he know you know? Has he talked before about these 'interests'? Do you share his interests? The main point is, IS THIS healthy to have around your children....???
If this was my partner, and in all cases where I offer my advice, it is advice only.... I would print it out, and wait for the kids to be in bed, and quietly ask him what it meant, what does it mean to your relationship, and what does it mean for the children - their safety and wellbeing...
I would be well and truly shocked, upset, and disappointed. Even if it was 'for a laugh', I would still be surprised to let this into our homes, our lives, and our sacred trust of our relationships...
Ok, to turn the coin and assume you guys are taking 'relationship vacation', I would still be questioning it. But I am unsure of your situation. I just put me in your shoes, for this example...
OMG tanya....
I agree with miss wingbat, although i am quite hot headed so my reaction would be quite brutal.. you dont deserve to have that in your life or your childrens, i agree print it up and ask him about it. I looked at the profile and was shocked myself. I think its something you definetly need to discuss. Im sorry this has happend to you and its not your fault someone cant behave the way they should in a loving caring relationship.
keep your chin up babe
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Miss WingBat I thank you very much for you onesty and words off support!! I need it now ... Yes we are living together and yes have a child, this has happened before in our relationship and i got very upset and he knows this! But yet he did it again! A few weeks back we got into a disagrement and i was ready to leave i took the kids and we went to Lollipops with my family, but that night i came back to him and our house! When i found this today i asked him (he is currently away so i cant confront him face to face) and he told me he set that up ages ago, i then said no it says it only got set up a month ago, he said he did it when we had that fight to "hurt" me, who would do that to some1 they love? And his been on there in the last 9 days also i found a picture of him on our computer that he had taken, holding a piece off paper i have now just found out that to prove the photos u post off urself on these profiles are really you, you have to take a photo off yourself displaying ur registration number, this photo was only taken on the 2cnd of August! Which proves this profile wasnt set up just to hurt me and he is still accessing it!! Sorry for the rant i just need to talk so some1 about it
Thanks Em big hugs to you also! I think the stuff he has posted on that profile is quiet disgusting and the photos off himself, it isnt something a "father" should be doing!!
I dont know you very well Tanya but I looked at the profile and all I can say is - my hubby would be DEAD. That kind of behaviour would be on my "not on" list so I would have his bags packed and the locks changed.
For one, you are the MOTHER of his kids. Disrespecting the mother of your kids like that is unacceptable and THE worst thing a man could ever do. Secondly, I am assuming you are together full time not taking a break, but either way even if he was doing that while you were taking a break then he absolutely cannot be serious about making your relationship work.
He mustnt respect you as a person, woman or a mother if he thinks you'd let him get away with that kind of behaviour.
I hope I havent stepped on toes, its just Im a strong minded woman and dont feel that ANY woman is that low in her life that she should tolerate being treated like that. We are fabulous human beings and fabulous mothers and we deserve the BEST life has to offer.
here, here to anna... id have to agree that my hubby wouldnt be coming home tonight, and just out of curiosity i asked my hubby what he would think if i were to do that and his reply was well you dont want to be with me... and that our relationship would be over. its not something you do in a relationship.. even if you want to hurt someone.. that in itself is a little concerning..
if he has done it before thats really a cause of concern babe that he doesnt consider your feelings and sacrifices youve made for your family.
i think you really need to clear your head and work out what you want.
ANNA>>>>> where in bushy beach are you babe? id love a catch up with a "local" haha
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but im trying really hard not to cry, gotta be strrong for my kidlets!! I wont go into a rant!!
Im doing okies now just need to get my head straight and figure out were i go from here..
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