Townsville Mums #2

[MissWingBat]

Tanya,
I am really happy that you are focussing on the positive aspects of your life. It is sometimes hard to 'not' dwell on issues and fall into a black pit, which not only affects you and your house-life, but your children too. This step also enables you to get out the house too!! Sometimes focusing on yourself, and your children, and making positive changes to your life can help show the way to the future. You will know in your heart the right time to talk to him, seriously, without conflict.

I know if I am in a stink with my DH, I clean and clear out furiously, madly scrubbing the house, not sure if this gets the point across but at least it keeps my mind busy, and not sit and listen to sad songs all day... (even though it is tempting!)

I am looking forward to meeting you, as well as another meet-up with the other girls. Today we are busy at home (well, I am - I cleaned house, car, and even dogs!) but hopefully next week I will have a morning to chill out with you ladies...

Hope everyone has a great FRIDAY!!

[tsv_girl]

Hi Tanya
I have just read his profile and don't really know what to say. It's hard to comment unless it's happened to you.
It must be very hard to now be able to talk to him about this in person. I can only guess that you must be feeling very betrayed and upset. I think it would hurt that he mentioned he was not only single but had no children.
When does he come home? It is hard to have conversations like that over the phone.
I have had a similar experience with friends of mine. Do you have an email address, I can tell you about it and offer some more advice if you like.
Good on you for focussing on yourself and the kids. Trying to take your mind off it hopefully will help.

[mummy19]

Hey Ladies thanks again, all i can do is focuss on the happier things, he sent me a long message saying he knows his miss treated me and doesnt deserve me he understands if i leave blah blah but is he just doing that to try and sweet talk me or does he really mean it?

tsv_girl~ My email addy is foxxy_112002@hotmail.com. Thanks hope to hear from you!
He doesnt get back for 5 weeks he only just left so i am just going to keep myself busy and happy and do what i want and enjoy myself, then when he gets home i can tear shreads off him!! No we need to sit down and talk and i think he needs counciling!!

[Ilithyia]

Hi Girls!

Just popping in quickly to say hi!

About to head into town to have an xray done on my back as I had acute pain in my lower back and had to see the Chiro yesterday. On anti-inflamitory tabs now which is helping with the pain HEAPS.

Tanya - Sorry to hear about whats happening with you. I will comment further later on. Massive to you hunni.

Welcome Anna! Glad to hear you finally made it to Townsville. Congrats on your pregnancy. Wishing you a happy and healthy journey. Who's going to be your Doula???

Courtney - Glad to hear that Adam is being an angel for you hun. Nothing better than a content baby!

Well just about to walk out the door.

Hope you are all well...

BBL!

[wannabaskinnybinny]

Hi girls... Wow... I just popped by to see if anyone wants to catch up on either Monday or Thursday's...
I was just going back over the threads and Tanya, I don't know you but I am sorry that you have such a problem in front of you. My advise is to go see a counsellor and talk it through. He doesn't have to go with you but the way I see it is at this point you have a big decision to make, to stay or go and there are many things that you need to weigh up to make that decision. But one thing, the decision is yours not his as to whether your relationship continues. Your right, there is a lot of support here for you
Anyhoo, Sorry I didn't make it to the Friday day, would have LOVED to but its my little people free day so I cleaned the house from top to bottom!! But would love to catch up soon

[wannabaskinnybinny]

P.S.
Courtney BIG Congratulations on the birth of Adam... Look forward to meeting him

AnnaT Welcome to Sunny Townsville... I hope you love it here...

[mummy19]

Good Afternoon Ladies, am about to head off to the doctors to get Indy checked out! She threw up again this morning
Thanks Sarah and wannabeskinnybinny~ I really appreciate the hugs and words off support

Wannabeskinnybinny~ Where were you thinking off having a meet? Let me no and if i can get there i will be..

[Freya]

Hope Indy feels better soon Tanya!

Thanks for the welcomes

Sara, I dont really think I need a doula, Im lucky enough to have amazingly easy and quick births and my hubby is quite vocal on my behalf! Was quite upset to find there is no private midwives up here that do homebirths I so had my heart set on one so its hospital now.

WBSM, I can do a meetup on either day but I'll need notice so I can steal the car from DH. Will be so glad to have a new car to drive, getting the kids up at 6:30am is killing all of us and ensures I have hours of tantrums and attitude for the rest of the day from my 2yo. Fridays are my kid free days too but no cleaning for me today other than a quick sweep, Im feeling to lazy lol

[Chocaholic]

Hi ladies.

OMG, I go away for a day or so and everything happens. Yikes!!

Tanya, hun, I can't even comprehend how you are feeling right now. You seem to be holding together amazingly well. All I can suggest is counselling, both together and separately. There has to be something going on with your other half and he needs to get it sorted to be a proper partner and father (if that is what you want!). Otherwise counselling will be able to give you some tools to help organise yourself mentally and emotionally. Best wishes. This must be a nightmare for you. Also, how is Indy now? Has the Dr given you anything for her?

AnnaT, welcome to Townsville (and us!!).

Sara, how's the back now?

Sorry, this is a short post as have to do some cleaning and washing. I forgot how many clothes a newborn goes through. Who knew they can pee that much?

[Freya]

LOL Court, they are wee machines arent they! Although mine still are at 23mths and 7.5mths. I have to double nappy them when they go to bed otherwise I wash PJs and sheets EVERY day.

[wannabaskinnybinny]

Anna, would be lovely to catch up... I've only met a couple of mum on here and they are lovely... I hate having to get all the little people organised just to drop him at work, so I feel for you :O) Maybe we could organise to catch up one Friday for a coffee minus little people!! Wow, cant even remember last time I did that!!!!!!!! lol

[Freya]

I am definately up for coffee, or lunch or heck even a movie (OMG a movie do they still have those? ) on a Friday as long as its after 10am as I usually bring the kids back to bed for an hr after drop off and then run them to daycare and madly drive away

[Ilithyia]

Sara, I dont really think I need a doula, Im lucky enough to have amazingly easy and quick births and my hubby is quite vocal on my behalf! Was quite upset to find there is no private midwives up here that do homebirths I so had my heart set on one so its hospital now.

Fair enough. Good to see that you have confidence in your hubby to advoacate for you!

As for the IM, I'll let you in on a little secret. One of the Doula's I work with is just about to complete her BMID and will be working as an IM here in Townsville next year. She is about to move down to Adelaide to work along-side another IM for 6 months for some "on the job" experience and then will be practicing up here.

I am not sure on when she will be back up here but you might just be in time. I will get back to you if you like.

Have you had any contact from potential clients? Or are you even going to be working now your pg yourself?

Court - Yeah the back is much better today. Slack me did'nt go for the xray though! Was too busy looking at rental properties!

Tanya - I did'nt get to see the link in time as the Mods removed it. Nevermind, i get the gist of what is happening. Now, if it was my DP posting stuff like that, I would castrate him! I have been through things like this with my partner. He said that it was "just for fun". I totally drilled him and made him feel so small for doing it. They do not take into consideration how you feel when they do dumb $hit like that. As some of the girls said, print it off and confront him with it. Make a big deal out of it!

Cayce- Have you brought the TTC forward??? Did you find the VBAC class helpful?? I certainly did. It totally opened my eyes to the "other side" of birth! I'm really sad to hear some of the experiences women have with c-sects.

Sorry I did'nt welcome Jasmine in my earlier post! So Welcome to Belly Belly Jasmine! I am Sara. 24 y/o mum to Briley (2) and Colby (1). I try and get to the meets that the girls organise but my life is pretty hectic at the moment. I do my best don't i girls!

I will be able to make the next meet though! What day are we doing?? Thursday or Friday.

I like the idea of a gated park though! There are a few ok parks around.

I will be watching with keen interest!

[Emma-Lee]

hey everyone, im keen for next thurs in a gated park, doesnt have to be strand... im not really familiar with gated parks around the place so i cant really say, i know there is one in west end, closer to the iga way.. im not sure what its called but theres afew ovals around it..
i had my make over today.. i think it will be okay, i was so far out of my comfort zone i wonder if it will be noticeable!
hope everyone has a gorgeous weekend, i will coz ben is home!!
xx

[wannabaskinnybinny]

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Cayce- Have you brought the TTC forward??? Did you find the VBAC class helpful?? I certainly did. It totally opened my eyes to the "other side" of birth! I'm really sad to hear some of the experiences women have with c-sects.

Hiya Sara, I did find the VBAC class very helpful and ... not sure of the right words, I guess inspiring to hear other peoples stories, and I guess it instilled a little bit of faith in me that there are people out there who are able to support me through a birth/labour!! I have already recommended it to a couple of people and think I'll be your biggest supporter/advocate lol
So, yer, I wouldn't say "trying" but not doing anything to not get pregnant for the next 6 wks til he leaves... So fingers and toes crossed but if it doesn't happen then so be it and I'll put it on hold til next Feb when his home again... I think I was really scared to go again with the last 2 experiences but after meeting everyone (doulas) I am defintely going that way.. Gotta run getting kids outta the bath... Husband is supervising ) See you Thursday?!

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