There's too many posts for me to comment individually now but THANKYOU so much for your replies!
Yay I am normal!!! I am so glad that my feelings are valid.

My MIL ended up calling my DH today and saying that she had spoken to me about sending DD to them and what does he think? Straight away DH reckons he said 'no' She tried saying 'oh its not in the next few days, it will be in a weeks time' He just told her its not necessary, she then said she thought I wld like the break. His reply was 'from what? Shes a stay at home Mum!' Cheeky bugger... cos ofcourse us SAHM mums dont do anything hey She then said how about when you go to Hamilton Island to work and he said 'Ill be working'. (its so silly she even came up with this plan cos all dh had said to her was that he was going there for work, nothing at all about me going)
I called him and found all this out before I spoke to MIL thank goodness, I felt the weight lift off my shoulders!
So when I spoke to her she said 'oh I thought u wld like to go to H. Island' and I said I wld but IF it was going to happen then we would want to bring DD and then made a little joke that DH would prefer her over me anyday!' Luckily that was enough and the subject was changed... I think that will be it for a while now... Its quite obvious we're not ready. I know they don't and wont understand what the problem is and will probably feel a bit sorry for DD having such 'crazy' parents but that's ok, I know the truth I sometimes wish I was still breastfeeding DD so I cld use that as my reason, but then again from the time she turned 1 til I weaned at 2 MIL was always saying to send her there to wean her because thats how my SIL weaned all her 1 year olds and it worked really well. (she has 5 kids) I think it wld have been a horrible way to wean for her and me!!

DD does surprisingly have a special bond with her grandparents and cousins etc, considering she only sees them 4-5 times a year, and she wld have an absolute ball visiting but im sure it wld be a different story with no mum and dad... You have all helped me to see that the bond she has with them wldnt he enough, especially for a long period of time. She wld definitely need to do a sleep over first... and I cant see that happening for ATLEAST another year... and I wld have to be a small car trip away. (gosh I havent even wanted her to sleep in their bed with them when theyve asked and theyve been staying at our place because I wld find it hard her not having dh or myself in with her.. luckily she has always said no! )

So thankyou all once again for helping to make my reasons more clearer and also for making me realise this is a normal way to be and to be stronger in the future and just say no!! xxx