Powelly - that's the way to get jiggy with this journey! Didn't mean to bring tears though... hugs.
I just thought of something else that helped me, and is totally based on my own experiences and not from my counselling sessions or talking with other bereaved mums. It's about celebrating this pregnancy. For me, despite all my other fears and quirks about not getting a pregnancy ticker, not joining a baby buddies thread ( have you thought about that? I did and there were women in there who had suffered m/c and some who hadn't, but it was really nice to be able to almost normalise the pregnancy by sharing the journey with others at exactly the same stage. I say almost because, the fear at times can be paralysing and the dread and forboding so overwhelming but I did like seeing what other women were experiencing in what I thought were "normal" pregnancies. And, I am still in that thread with those women and they are a great source of support to this day) It might also help with your feelings of isolation... maybe even if you just lurk in that thread for a while and see how you go before you plunge in? Whoops off on a tangent there.... sorry.
You identified the point precisely.... if you don't tell people, then they can't offer their support. So maybe another way to rejoice in the miracle of life you are so beautifully nuturing is to gradually extend the circle of people who know?
And about isolation... I so understand your feelings there. Not to talk about myself too much ( oh dear, how I love to do that... LOL), but at 7 and a half weeks I stopped work and went on to a modified best rest... I didn't actually ever get around to asking the Obs what he meant by that, but I kind of made it up as I went along depending on how I felt, but I pretty much kept to my bed/lounge. Pretty much my sources of personal support was DH, my cats, and BB and one friend who visited me every two weeks. Apart from that my Mum called me but she was busy caring for my brother who's not well and she lives 2 hours away anyway. My Dad openly admitted not being able to call me because he was too scared to get bad/sad news. It was a very very lonely time. No work, no sports, no socialising, no movies... though I did sneak out for a take away coffee sometimes. I wonder why people didn't visit me, and I think it's a lot of factors but one of which was I actually kept people away. Not sure why when I was desperately lonely. I think it's because I didn't want them to see my house messy and me all vulnerable? Besides who likes to entertain guests from the regal position of lying in bed or on the lounge in a schmoz of a house. It's funny though since Hannah has been here, I've not cared so much about what the house looked like when I've had guests, and I have invited them in.
The one thing is being by myself so much got me to actually slow down and I got used to my own company and also gave me plenty to time to think and really explore my feelings. I was on BB a LOT too....
Anyway, got to run.... belly rubs from me! 14 and half weeks is a very good achievement!
Jo - OMG - you sound so much like me and the nursery except we gave our bed away to my cousin. I am so excited for you.... nominally 5 weeks to go! I am sooooooooooo excited for you.
Laney - are you snowed in with that terrible blizzard? How do you cope with little ones? I'll bet they get cabin fever. Hugs to you boys for me.
Teni - 34 weeks girl - look at you and Cookie go. Belly rubs.
I am a bit petrified today, My ob has booked me in tomorrow to be induced, due to my blood pressure problems. I can't help but feel it's going to happen all over again! ( i know it's silly) oh well fingers crossed for tomorrow and i feel a bit bad, we can't seem to settle on a name for our little Smudge! We have about a dozen of them and can't pick one!
Hey Bec! Wow, it's so exciting hun (and a bit nerve wrecking too I know!) you'll be holding your little one soon! Can't wait to hear all about it hun. I was really freaking out before I had my c/s but was also so excited to have Cam out as well! Don' worry about the name hun, we couldn't settle on one either, in hossy he was Baby Anderson for a few days! lol.
Samcougar - OMG ! That is awsome. Tomorrow! Tomorrow your little smudge will be here... well if the induction works quickly. I am so excited for you. I understand your fear and trepidation. Nothing I can say will actually make it any better for you - in my experience the only thing that made me believe, was actually having a little one in my arms I am thining of you and sending you all my strength. You can do this. And don't wrry about names - you'll have about 60 days to sort that out. Once she's here, she might help you with that decision anyway. Oh my, I can't wait to hear. Take care and go gently. Enjoy your last day of this miracle pregnancy with smudge...
Samcougar! Just read your post and am so excited for you!!! Good luck today and can't wait to hear your happy news when you have your gorgeous little baby in your arms. Thinking of you!!!
sorry that I have been missing! DH has been in the middle east for work and I have been home with the boys....alone. I have been busy getting Grayson into play groups and sensory therapy. I now have a possible blood clot in my left leg. I started taking my blood thinners again, will have to be on them for at least 3 months.
I have been thinking of everyone! I will be back when things are not so crazy.
Hey Laney! On no for the blood clot! Hope the blood thinners will get rid of him. Take it easy hun, I can imagine it's pretty full on with two kiddies and no hubby! Big hugs.
and i feel a bit bad, we can't seem to settle on a name for our little Smudge! We have about a dozen of them and can't pick one! 
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