Thanks for the advice and sharing your experiences.

I think the golden rule seems to be don't tell anyone early who you wouldn't also want to be sharing news of a miscarriage with.

We'll probably consider telling a couple of close friends after 6 wk scan. I'm still undecided about family - I wouldn't mind telling our parents around Xmas (8wks) except for the fact my DH has a huge extended family and I know they'll end up blabbing to everyone no matter if we ask them to keep it quiet.

I'll definitely be keeping things quiet as long as possible at work. Everyone's noticed me going to a few doctors appointments (ie fertility specialist) but thankfully no one has been too pushy about asking why. I keep wondering if my closest co-worker will figure it out as his wife is currently pregnant with their second IVF baby but so far he seems just as clueless as everyone else.