Bonding with baby... Possibly upsetting for some...

[misty]

Don't push yourself. The more you stress and overthink this the worse you will feel and the more counterproductive it will be.

It is perfectly normal, particularly at such an early stage, to not feel 'connected' or bonded with your baby. It is alright. Give yourself time and give yourself space.

Also, try and just look at the positives about your pregnancy. It is very easy to feel all the negatives (especially when there can be so many of them). But take some time out each day to think of just ONE positive thing about your pregnancy for that day. It cna be anything; either present or looking into the future. It could be "wow, I am growing a life" It may be you feel the baby move, it may be that you DIDN"T get morning sickness today, or you had five minutes to just relax and not feel anything negative about being pregnant (that in itself can be a positive). Hell it can be the same positive thing each day if you want. The point is to make a concerted effort to try to look at things differently, even if you don't actually 'feel' it. (the old 'fake it til you make it' crap )

[damprye]

I think that if the cicumstances surrounding this pregnancy were different then I might actually see the positives more.
My now XDP tried to force me into an abortion, I have had friends that have told me that it would probably be for the best if I did as well. I worry about having somewhere decent to sleep without over stepping me welcome too much. I worry about having a stable place to live once bubby comes and being able to afford to live with both of my babies. I do not have support from family in WA and cannot afford to move to Sydney and as far as I know, rent is even higher over there and I am having no luck affording anything here as it is. Now I have lost my job (because I didn't give my boss enough notice when I ended up in the ED -.-) I don't even know how I am going to afford to keep my car or phone. I have all the furniture I need other than matteresses. I only need to get the little things like new cloth nappies etc for the baby but all of that is usless without having a place to put it all. I have been on the priority listing for Homeswest (the housing commision for WA) but it will still be another 18 months before I get even a two bedroom place. I can't got raising a 3ry old and a newborn in a car for a year. I just don't know how I am going to manage...