Hi moose, congrats on your pregnancy!!!

I am pretty much agreeing with most of the other replies with saying if I were in your shoes I'd turn down the BM position & just go as a guest if able to when the time comes.

Something you have to really think about is if you go over due which is quite common in first pregnancies, then at best you may have only been out of hospital a few days. My DD was 8 days overdue, I had a complication free vaginal birth & was out shopping the day I left the hospital with my 4 day old DD. So I agree that is everything goes smoothly you will most likely be up to attending a wedding BUT being part of the wedding is a whole other story....

What if for some reason you're overdue & then complications arise meaning you need an emergency c/s (hopefully this wont happen, but it COULD). This would mean you'd most likely be in hospital or fresh out of hospital when the big day arrives.

When I had DD the lady in the room next to mine had needed a c/s & she was on morphine for the pain, I have heard this can be quite common. Most of the c/s mums in my ward were very slowly walking around, bent over due to their pain. I cant imagine this simply stopping within a week? I may be wrong but cant imagine it.

Also I know when my DD was newborn my maternal instinct (I guess thats what you call it?) went into over-drive & I needed to know she was ok, being watched, warm enough etc etc so I think you may be very distracted thinking about your new baby while you're supposed to be focused on the bride, so that may not be fair to the bride as it will be "her day" & if she's nervous will need her BM's there to help her.

I just think there are too many possible scenarios being so close to your due date. I personally wouldn't take the risk.

With being just a guest you will be able to quietly sneek to the back to comfort your screaming newborn if it starts screaming, you will be able to discretely breast feed during the ceremony if needed, you can sit down & rest as much as you like/need, you can leave early if needed... it will be so much more relaxing as a guest.

Good luck in making a decision, its a hard one to make as there are no guarantees in pregnancy for due dates etc.

I hope I helped