how do you cope with the worry of wondering whether the pregnancy will go right?

[teepee2]

Tenar as you've probably gathered from our belly buddies group, I'm a bit of a worrier too!

We had alot of trouble conceiving our daughter and after 2 years we were very thrilled that the fertility treatment finally worked. Then my SIL made a comment early on that we shouldnt get too excited until we passed the 12 weeks mark. Well that completely set me off and all I could think about for the rest of the pregnancy was what could go wrong! Thankfully everything worked out well but the worry was always in the back of my mind and its completely normal to feel this way, especially when you read or hear of so many things going wrong.

This time, as you know, my HCG is on the lower end of the scale so once again I'm a bit worry wort!

I only have 1 suggestion for you.... Read as much as you can about the pregnancy journey itself. Read about the milestones, about the development of your baby, about what to expect physically and emotionally etc BUT DO NOT read about the negative side, dont read about what can go wrong! It'll only make you stress and worry and the the best thing you can do for youself and your baby is to remain positive about the whole experience!

Although alot of ppl say that the doppler is great, I personally wouldnt get one. Depending on what position your baby is in, and the position of your placenta, you may not always be able to find a heartbeat easily (especially early on in the pregnancy) and that is only going to worry you even more. I have a few friends that bought one and they at times were sure something had happened to their babies because they couldnt find a clear heartbeat. I'd say leave that part up to your OB or midwife - they know what they're doing!!

I hope you're feeling a little better about it all and I'm sure you'll enjoyi every minute of this wonderous journey

[Skyeblue]

tenar- a doppler is a device where you can listen to bubs heartbeat and hear him or her moving around. You can use it after 12 weeks, or for me it was 13 weeks. Any earlier and you probably wont hear anything.
Just go to ebay and type in doppler, I have the angelsounds one. I think mine cost about $60, but let me tell you, it is worth every cent.
Even now when she has quiet days and I worry, I have a listen and can hear she is fine in there.

[teepee2]

Sky just wondering, do you always hear a clear heartbeat. I have friends who have used them and had problems hearing anything so I've always been sceptical about buying one (mainly cause I'm a worrier!!!)

[Skyeblue]

teepee yep, always able to hear a clear heartbeat. Sometimes she is in a different position, but if you move it around a bit, you will find it.