Thanks for yr reply ...helps to know that it does have some positives even though im still freaking out!! The doc i saw today told me she has a 19month gap between her 2 also and she said although it was hard work at the start they are now reaping the benefits as they are very close. Im just worried about how i will cope with a newborn and a toddler!! We werent planning on trying till middleof next year..was hoping for more like a 3 year age gap rather than 2 year!! Am i being a nut? would it be any easier having a 3 year old and a newborn?
All gaps have their advantages and disadvantages. My 2 are 17 months apart and we're just getting on top of life now (8 months on). My cousin has a 3 year age gap with her 2 littlies and it still struggling.
I don't think there is a magic number, i just think you manage with whatever you get!
2 yr 7 mnth age gap here and it certainly is not easy for the first year. They are into very different things and a 3 year old needs alot of entertaining - well my one does at least.
Thanks ladies for all yr responses...im starting to feel excited now that the shock is slowly fading...i guess i just planned to be more prepared but i guess you cant plan everything!!
congrats on your pregnancy!!! my sister had 10 months between my nephew and niece and she said its great because they are really close. it did take alot for her to get settled but she did brilliantly. if you want any questions answered il ask her to pop in. take care rach xxxxx
Congratulations on your pregnancy! I have 15 months between my elder two, then a gap of 2.5 years, then two more (47 minutes apart ). To be honest it is hard work at times but mainly it is brilliant. The kids are good friends with each other, can share toys, enjoy similar outings, etc. You will be fine and your older child will love being an older sibling.
Oh I am a wee bit envious that you are at the beginning of such an exciting journey. Enjoy every minute
Hi Mambo,
i am in your bb group, and i had the same thoughts when i found out i was preg with DS3.
I have a 2y 4m gap between DS1 & DS2. I thought it was ok.
Then i fell pg with DS3, only 8 months after DS2 was born and i was FREAKING! I thought along the same lines as you, BUT they are getting along alot better than the eldest 2 and they are into the same type of thing, etc. Adjusting with a new child is always hard, no matter how much of a age gap, but you soon get organised and into a routine. I think it took me a few months to get into a routine. But when you have done it its great!!
Enjoy your pregnancy and i am glad i will be sharing the journey with you!
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). To be honest it is hard work at times but mainly it is brilliant. The kids are good friends with each other, can share toys, enjoy similar outings, etc. You will be fine and your older child will love being an older sibling.
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