Hi Mimatron,

Thanks for yr reply ...helps to know that it does have some positives even though im still freaking out!! The doc i saw today told me she has a 19month gap between her 2 also and she said although it was hard work at the start they are now reaping the benefits as they are very close. Im just worried about how i will cope with a newborn and a toddler!! We werent planning on trying till middleof next year..was hoping for more like a 3 year age gap rather than 2 year!! Am i being a nut? would it be any easier having a 3 year old and a newborn?