I think we waited to tell everyone until after 12 weeks each time, except my first when I had to tell work at around 8 weeks due to the chemicals I was working with. I think we might have told our parents around then too. I didn't tell my local friends until around 15 weeks with DD1 because I didn't know them that well back then and it didn't come up in conversation. I held off until around 15 weeks with DD2 because my best friend was TTC for over a year and I really wanted her to be pregnant when I told her (guilt over an oopsie baby when she desperately wanted one). I would have hidden it longer but it was getting a bit obvious by then.
I told family and very close friends and also my work about 4-5 weeks. Im a nurse so it was important work new so I could be allocated "safe" patients.
I told my friends on fb last week so 14 weeks. I wanted to see a 12 week scan first before I announced only due to my m/c in the past.
Its totally up to the individual, I also didnt want to announce it on fb due to DH having family over in south africa who we wanted to tell in person.
We had not told anyone when we lost our first at 7weeks.
For DS we waited to tell our families until after the 12 week scan to make sure all was ok. I told work at 24 weeks as I was still not really showing then.
Since we lived remotely, and I did not really want to announce on facebook, most of our friends in the real world did not find out until I moved to syd temporarily 6 weeks before ds was due. They pretty much figured it out when we were having catch ups
Its so personal and I would go with what feels right for you. At the end of the day if the people you want to know are in the loop, the others can wait until your 6 year old bursts with excitement!
We told our parents at 12 weeks once we had the scan. Siblings were about 13 weeks and I didn't announce it on Facebook until I posted his birth announcement!!
First pregnancy I told nobody but my best friend until after the 12 week scan as I wanted to surprise my parents. Unfortunately it was a bad surprise as I had a missed miscarriage so that was the first they knew
Second pregnancy (DD) I told my bestie straight away again and my parents at about 5-6 weeks. We didn't tell anyone else until after the 12 week scan, except for DHs parents at 11 weeks. They would have been told at the same time as my parents but they were away in Europe so we waited to tell them in person. I told work the day after my 12 wk scan and told Facebook a couple of days later, once all the important people knew.
I let miss 6 tell family at Easter both sides but I'd already told my mum and a couple of close friends.
I've told my long term ttc friends because I think it's nicer to hear it personally than on Facebook and two of them were ttc the same time as me one got a negative the day I got a positive sad but I knew situation reversed I would want her to tell me straight away.
If I didn't have party to go to with all these girls who think I'm their best friends at 12wks I would save it longer but I don't know if miss 6 can keep quiet around them when at least one maybe two 29 week pregnant girls will be there. I'd rather control it I think...
I'm glad I told miss 6 even though it's meant keeping the secret is harder she is just so excited to see my scans and kiss my belly she was 3 turning 4 last time and we told her at 9 weeks but we lived rural.
With DS our first, it was as soon as we started trying, and 10 months later he was born.
Wth DD our second, it was after getting the 12 week scan results back.
The party I was worried about was cancelled so now I don't have to tell yet
I was originally going to tell yesterday on my birthday
But now I'll wait til DD2 birthday in a month.
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