It is a personal thing, Imc when dd was 7 and ds 2 and a half, I mc at 11 wks and they both knew we were pg, so we just explained that he baby wasn't well and had gone away to heaven, I was pretty sick too so It was good for them to know. I don't regret talling them from the start, they coped without a prob, better than me anyway. They are matter of fact and asked questions which we answered honestly.

Best wishes Mcihelle