worrying unneccesarily?

[SammyRo]

I'm naturally a worrywart (get it from my darling mum), although I try not to be. But im really worried that something is going to go wrong. Is this a normal feeling? or am getting myself worked up over something I shouldn't worry about (as my DH keeps telling me, "you're doing everything you can to ensure a healthy pregnancy and baby, so can't control the rest of what happens"). I worry if I get cramps, then I worry if I don't get cramps for a while, I worry that i don't feel pregnant yet, then tell myself that its way too early to feel pregnant anyway, I haven't really felt much in the way of m/s this week, but then I have been sick with a cold so put nausea down to that. I made the mistake of reading a thread on missed m/cs (I've been trying to avoid reading stuff like that) and now i'm more worried that things aren't developing normally. i'm trying to enjoy it all and get excited but then I worry abut getting too excited. gah! i think i might lose my mind. Is all of this normal? can i put it down to hormones? when do you really start to feel pregnant? I've just been feeling sick this week, but I hope that when I get over it, I can start feeling pregnant again.
hope this makes sense! what can i do to ease these feelings?

[*charmalea*]

:hugs:awwww ... hugs ..

its normal to worry , and not normal for you to excessivly worry to the point of panic...
you will start to feel pg very soon and cramps are normal and at the same time no cramps is normal, its different for everyone ..

i was exactly like you ... i ended up hating my pregnancy and having panic attacks in the 2nd trimester...... and i ended up on anti depressants... so i urge you to talk to a counseller coz if you dont calm down you could upset your self and your dh and your baby could be affected .. but its unlikely ...


if you want to talk to a fellow worrier ... 1 yr on i obsessivly worry about my son .... msn me , it could ease your mind ..

best of luck , i know how you feel ...

[chickbabe61]

Hey Hun,

It is eprfectly normal. I was the same as you. i am now 12 weeks pregnant and i seriously still don't "feel" pregnant. I still get cramps occasionaly and the way i see it is it's just bub letting me know that he/she is still there. I know how you feel with the m/s people thought i was weird that i really wanted it becasue that way i knew my bub was still there and now that it has passed apart from being tired i really dont feel pregnant. Good luck hun adn i hope you have a happy & healthy pregnancy

[jamnik]

Hi SammyRo

I just thought i would write and let you know i am going through the same thing. I wish i could stop worrying. On Saturday i told my husband i was worried because i no longer "felt pregnant" then Sunday come and i was worrying over the period type cramping (apparently normal). It was only a week ago that we had an ultrasound and seen our little ones heartbeat, however here i am 7 days later stressing again. I think i am worrying because our next scan isnt for another 4 weeks and i worry that i wont know what is happening for that long.
I too have been trying to avoid the miscarriage stories but have found myself reading a few. I am going to try to stay away from those though. Your husband is right, you are doing what you can and not putting your baby in any harm so the rest is up to nature.
When i mentioned to a friend how i was worried she said "welcome to motherhood, you worry when you are pregnant, you worry when they are born and you worry when they are teenagers". I guess she is right, it probably explains the constant worrying my Mum does "go to the doctor if that cough gets worse, make sure you lock the car doors when driving, you must eat breakfast as it is the most important meal of the day".
I guess now we are on the road to motherhood, we will need to take the worrying with all the happy times ahead. I hope my rant has helped a little, at least knowing you arent the only worry wart out there might make you feel a bit better, reading your post made me feel a bit more normal.
Take care and i am sure your little bubba is doing great.

[Mum0809]

Hi SammyRo

I think its normal to worry. I worried heaps in the first 14 weeks. I wanted to just fast forward though it. I still worry now but less than before because I can feel him kicking and moving. But I don't think I will ever completely stop worrying. I think its just part of having kids.

[JordieC]

I understand completely the worrying because it is so natural to be concerned when you want something so much. The thing I want to say is that you can't really prevent lots of things so tehre is no piint asking "what if" or worrying about what "might" happen becaseu you will go crazy.
If something bad did happen, god forbid, then you would cope because that's what we do. You sound like everything is actually going really well so try to focus on that - not easy I know but I've been there done that and in my pregnancy I tried really hard to focus on the positive so it was an enjoyable expierience rather than a stressful one.

[SammyRo]

Thanks girls, its good to know I'm not the only one - i think that was what I needed really. I also think I was just hormonal and had a few moments of sheer worry. I feel better today and I know I'm going to have to relax and enjoy being pregnant (m/s and all!).
JoJo, I know what you mean about wanting to fastforward it all. I was talking to mum and said how i just didn't feel pg, and she said that people expect things to change drastically immediately, but its more a slow development. I keep inspecting my boobs everyday coz thats the only thing thats changed so far!
Jamnik, I think its natural for mothers to worry and yep, we're now mothers in waiting so I think its part of the package like you said!
Jordie, yep, I'm going to make sure I keep doing the right thing by eating, and folic acid and stuff and then I'll have done everything I can do to ensure that I have a healhty and happy pregnancy.