Well DH and I are planning on having 4kids and many people think I'm crazy for wanting that, on an emotional level I don't get why anyone would only want 1 child or only 2 but thats only because i so want a big family.
I think its like how u know when u want to have kids if you have to give logic reasons you could but YOU JUST KNOW I think it's the same with how many kids you want to have...you just want that because you want that iykwim
Don't worry what others say like you said you may change you mind...I might to but maybe not also. I think anyone who wants anything other than 2 or 3 kids these days is questioned as to why
Wow 3 or 4!! Good on you!! We are financially gonna be struggling with just one, let alone more, especially if next yr we want to try saving for our 1st home! Im just very lucky to have a lot of friends whose kids have just outgrown nursery items and haven't spent a cent (and the rate my mother is buying nappies 'cause they're on sale', I won't need to spend anything for a yr!)
We are also likely to be a one child household! My bubba is due at the same time as yours, have you found your belly thread yet? I'll come back and update this post with the link here.
Aw im expecting a girl too!! But my cousin often reminds me that his folks thought he was a girl but ended up being a boy with a small penis LOL. So lets hope if we have a boy that they don't mind pink clothes! (And nappies and blankets and baby names). Unsure how to find my thread, I only have the net on my mobile phone so its pretty confusing and slow!
Our DD will more than likely be an only child unless a mircle occurs! I had a very hard end of my pregnancy and an awlful labour and delivery. The result is a damaged uterus that may not carry more children. Prior to all that though DH and I did want a "biggish" family. However we can see now that it isn't for us, Asides from the pregnancy issues, my bipolar didn't cope as well as I thought it would with pregnancy and postnatal so we are happy with the gorgeous little one we have!!
I don't feel she will miss out on anything. She has plenty of chances to socialise even now. Although I have a sibling I have never been close to him and even now as adults we are lucky to talk once a month if that.
Anyway my 2 cents. I see no problem in having one child if that is what is right for you and your family.
DS may be an only one. Or may not. We really don't mind either way any more, not right now. When people ask when the next one is coming I ask them why I'd want another: DS is soooo perfect another child is bound to be a disappointment, why do that to a child?
TBH, there are other reasons for not having another one now - the 2-bed home is too small for 2 adults, let alone 2 adults and a toddler so another would be madness. We can't afford for me to be a SAHM and we can't afford 2 in childcare. I'm re-training at Uni for the next 18m. I need more help (ie someone who will visit me, comfortably in a car, rather than expecting me to drag a newborn on a train journey and walk over a mile to visit them... cheers, MiL or just someone who doesn't mind popping to the shops and grabbing me some milk if I'm out and the baby hasn't slept and I'm a walking zombie - again, PiL wouldn't do that).
If we don't have another child soon, DS will grow up an only. We may have another one late, ie when DS is in his late teens. That way we can focus on his interests now (ie no 10-year-old wanting to explore Minoan Crete but we can't because the baby is too young to fly etc) and when he is focussing on things other than passing interests and holidays start again! But for all intents and purposes, DS will be an only because the relationship is different when children aren't children together.
Also, I come from a big family and DH from a small one. I don't mind what size I have, so long as we stay in touch with all my family! I never wanted children very close together (3y or under) because I feel I cannot adequately meet the needs of both those children at the same time. And I hated my sister so much when living with her, 2y2m apart in ages. Wouldn't do that to my children.
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