Drat, I had replied to this!

DS may be an only one. Or may not. We really don't mind either way any more, not right now. When people ask when the next one is coming I ask them why I'd want another: DS is soooo perfect another child is bound to be a disappointment, why do that to a child?

TBH, there are other reasons for not having another one now - the 2-bed home is too small for 2 adults, let alone 2 adults and a toddler so another would be madness. We can't afford for me to be a SAHM and we can't afford 2 in childcare. I'm re-training at Uni for the next 18m. I need more help (ie someone who will visit me, comfortably in a car, rather than expecting me to drag a newborn on a train journey and walk over a mile to visit them... cheers, MiL or just someone who doesn't mind popping to the shops and grabbing me some milk if I'm out and the baby hasn't slept and I'm a walking zombie - again, PiL wouldn't do that).

If we don't have another child soon, DS will grow up an only. We may have another one late, ie when DS is in his late teens. That way we can focus on his interests now (ie no 10-year-old wanting to explore Minoan Crete but we can't because the baby is too young to fly etc) and when he is focussing on things other than passing interests and holidays start again! But for all intents and purposes, DS will be an only because the relationship is different when children aren't children together.

Also, I come from a big family and DH from a small one. I don't mind what size I have, so long as we stay in touch with all my family! I never wanted children very close together (3y or under) because I feel I cannot adequately meet the needs of both those children at the same time. And I hated my sister so much when living with her, 2y2m apart in ages. Wouldn't do that to my children.