I can't really offer any advice, but I just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you.
I've been told for 8 weeks now that my bub could have a chromosomal abnormality and been pestered for an amnio.
I got scanned a few days ago (I'm currently 30weeks) and my bub is sitting on the 8th percentile. Unfortunatley I'm not sure exactly what it means.
I know my bub is small, 2-3 weeks behind.
I'm not having an amnio, and I'm believing that my bub is OK.
I know its hard, and I've cried so much at the thought of bub having DS or some kind of disability.
But, you have to focus on the positives. Your bub is still growing, and if growth stopped you can safely deliver.
And the fact that you've had small bubs before, there most likely is nothing wrong at all.
Everythings going to be OK. Just gotta focus on the positives. They're hard to find at times, but they're there.
Gee Charlotte, I have been reading up on what you have been going through with your bub and I have to say, I feel for you. I will be praying all goes well for your little bub and yourself. Im sorry you have been going through such a hard time.
I am realy trying to keep up with the positives, and I am so glad to hear that you are clinging to all the positives too. It is really hard however when all you want to hear is good comments from our Dr's in relation to our bubs, with none of the negatives which seem to implant themselves more deeper down than the positives seem to. All we want is healthy bubs and seeming to get reminded of the opposite almost every week can get overwhelming, upsetting and exhausting.
I hope your little one gets to stay inside for a while yet, but we both know if our bubs are needed to be delivered early then it is for their wellbeing. We both dont have much longer to go before our little ones are here and with lots of luck we will both have wonderful outcomes.
Im sorry that you wont have bubs in the same hospital as you once he/she is delivered, but so glad you will get to stay at the ronald mcdonald house to be near your bub. Has to be a huge load off your mind apart from everything else you are facing.
ATM I am not sure if my bub will be with me after my c/s, as they have mentioned bub will need to be monitored in SCN once born to make sure there is no problems with breathing etc due to me being insulin dependant with GD. Have been told it all depends on bub.
Thankyou for your words, and for thinking of me, I too will be thinking of you. Praying all turns out well for the both of our bubs. Look after yourself gorgeous. hugs
Csab, I found with all our stress with our baby (which went up and down like a yoyo) that I needed to go to that dark place first before I could start to think positively again about things. It is completely understandable when you are in the throes of hearing awful stressful things at the hospital that you focus on these things. Particularly as you have been through a similar thing before it must bring up all sorts of feelings and fears. I would suggest to let yourself get as upset as you like, go there for a while. It is stressful, scary and hard, and it is fine that you feel all those things. I found that after I was so exhausted by worrying that I naturally started to focus on the more positive stuff, but only after I had really faced the other side of it. Then little by little the positives (like Charlotte mentioned - your baby is still growing, and V was similar size but OK), can start to shine out more. Give yourself some time and have a good cry whenever you need to if that is what helps.
I found talking to a genetic counsellor really helpful - is there one you can see at your hospital?
Andrea
Hi Cheryl. Wow I never knew before you had as many children as me.
Anyhow don't stress over bub. If you have a history of small babies then it will show up. Also sometimes between 32 - 36wks for some reasons unknown some babies slow down but then pick up again.
I had that with Samuel and daniel but it was worse with Tash as she didn't grow at all past 36 wks so was induced at 38wks and had to be resussed at birth. Placental breakdown. She is now a healthy 19 yr old, married and with her own son.
I know they all say that with GD you have bigger babies but not always.
I also have a friend who from 5 mths on was told her baby would be a dwarf as his measurements were way below normal. He was born perfectly sized and is a healthy little boy with big blue eyes, blonde curls and an active little chappy
I know I don't always trust my OBs scan measurements as the resolution on his machine is not as good as at the womens imaging clinic. A lot can depend on position, machine, technical expertise and genetics.
stress will not do your b/p any good and I reckon if will be high at your next check coz of course you are worrying.
big hugs and I'll be thinking of you and be here if you need to talk.
Jude
Oh hun I am so sorry they have brought this up now I know what it is like to suddenly be facing what could be DS so far into pregnancy.
I hope you get some time with bubs in surgery after the CS, I did get the first touch other than my OB bringing her out and a short cuddle, then she was going down hill, I could see it myself and had to be taken away to SCN, and I think you would be like me, and know that if bubs has to go they do and it is for the best, having been there before it was much easier the second time. And if they are showing signs like Miss A did, then the quicker they get them on o2, they can prevent HMD, and in the end Miss A was off the o2 by that night. Much better for them to go off for o2 quickly, then in my case, resulting in a transfer to a NICU hospital.
If you need to chat about soft markers, let me know, I know all of them for DS, and even if there are some it doesn't mean that DS is inevitable
I am so sorry I missed this earlier xxoo
Sorry for me MIA, but needed toget through to todays u/s. Thankyou everyone for your thoughts, it has been really appreciated. hugs
Well had todays hospital appt and u/s. Bub has grown to the 10%tile. Which was good to hear. However the notes say Says there has been interval growth noted from the previous scan with the EFW at the 7th to 10th %tile. I think I will stick with the 10th%tile instead. Sounds better. They had mentioned me doing an amnio today, which I had said really it is too late for that now, maybe at say 20wks not going onto 35wks. Dont want to put bub through that stress, or me for that matter we are so close to the finish line.
Anyhow have another u/s in 2wks to see how bubs growth is going as even though the report says that the AFI, BPP and UA dopplers remain normal, Symmetrical SGA is present with no evidence of fetal compromise at this stage. Who knows what the next scan will say.
Yet on the bright side all the estimated measurements are on the chart this time, so FX next one is even better.
Ahh yes, I also have a date for my c/s, yet that will be a surprise, however I am still tossing up on whether to keep that date, or arrange for another date.
Beema - thankyou sweety, I know the soft markers as I had a few of them with Miss V. I hope I do get some time with bub, not sure how my chances will be while in surgery though. FX anyway. Thanks re the o2, hopefully bub will cope without it though. Thankfully bub will be FT when delivered now, unless next u/s shows a problem that is compromising bub. hugs
Judy - Thankyou hun too, Yes I do have as many kids as you. lol. BTW as well congrats on your BFP, just look after yourself hun and i will have everything crossed for a nice sticky little bubba. So glad you have seen a wonderful HB. Always such a relief to see that. Thankyou for the reassurances as well. Honestly sometimes i wonder why I put myself through this. hugs
TCB - Thankyou hun, I did go to that dark place before I was able to move forward and clear my mind. I just needed to get through to today. Thankfully today was somewhat better apart from the amnio suggestion, which why on earth would I consider it now being almost 35wks along. I hope your doing ok. I cant wait to hear your BA, it isnt long to go now. Look after yourself hun. hugs
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I know what it is like to suddenly be facing what could be DS so far into pregnancy. 
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