firefly

i had my first child at 29 and second at 31, i always wanted 3 and ideally before i turned 35, however my first child died when she was 3yrs old. we started trying for another child when i was around 34 however i didn't fall pregnant until 2mths after my 35th birthday.

during my 3rd pregnancy that was it, i said no more after this HOWEVER as soon as dd was born i was ready to go back for more lol. dh was quite adamant at the time that no that was it, but after speaking to alot of other people who decided to stop but not really wanting to - they told me their regrets and i so don't want that. my dh decided last year yes okay he is keen for another - we have been ttc for 13mths now and i am 37yrs old (will be 38 in october this year) and i tell you i hate it that everything i read about declining fertility and problems etc really gets to me and somedays i think no i don't want to take any chances - i don't want anymore heartache in my life. but then i read the success stories of people having children in their late 30's and it gives me hope.

having said that i am seriously considering that if i don't fall by my 38th birthday then we will have a chat and think about finishing our family as is.

i say give it a go and good luck

btw your son has a cool name