Hi Nikki

Our pg with DD was unexpected and I understand what a huge shock to the system that can be. In our case it was DP who had the biggest adjustment, I think I was more ready for it than he was. He 'put one foot in front of the other' as far as getting ready for the baby went for a while and gradually got used to the idea. As soon as she was born he was totally in love.

Since you already have kids I'd imagine you'd have even more to think about than we did - financial, emotional and physical challenges. Give yourself some time to get used to the idea and don't beat yourself up about not being excited at the thought of another baby so soon. Even if you aren't in love with the idea of #4 for the whole pg I'm sure as a Mum you know how you'll feel about him/her once he/she is born. And it might not take you that long to get excited! You will also probably feel better when the house is sold and all of that hassle is out of the way. This baby is so close to Chantelle in age you will get to do your own thing at about the same stage anyway, hon. Don't know if you'll be able to say the same thing about your figure!! LOL

For the record, if I fell pg within the first year of Lucy's life I know I would be pretty negative in my feelings. And I do want another couple of kids and have been surprised already! Just not now...