We had a shower that was thrown for us, but it was a 'couples' one, which seems to be getting more common where I live... One benefit we hadn't anticipated is that there was suddenly a room full of many fathers who in that context were happy to share parenting stories with DH, who had almost no experience with children before that. At a baby shower, it didn't seem like an un-manly thing to do, and I think it gave DH some more confidence about becoming a dad for the first time. I think it's nice, too, since it's his baby too, for dad to be included if the dynamics lend themselves to that.