Thank you for all the replies, i also think i should be able to be proud of becoming a mummy for the second time and want to celebrate that with my friends and family... And i dont expect anything just for them to come.. Like the PP said i dont want to be bombarded with too many people in hospital or for the first few days with guests so before hand i can get it out of the way than deal with just a handful of people at once after the bub is born..... Hard trying toplease evrbody though isnt it LOL..